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Dealing with the Loss of a Loved One

Regardless of whether the passing away of a loved one was expected or not, there is always a considerable amount of sadness and shock involved. Having to let go of the ones that we loved is never easy and unfortunately, there is no guidebook to help you with this process. Nonetheless, by understanding certain aspects of loss and grief, you will find it easier to cope with your current situation. While it will not lessen the impact, it will diminish any concern or confusion involved. Here are a few things that you should know about dealing with the loss of a loved one:

Everyone Grieves Differently

Each individual is different so it is understandable that each person would find their own way to grieve. Some cry, others get angry, and some people may experience temporary disbelief or astonishment. Despite what you may have been told, there is no real ‘right’ way to grieve for someone that is no longer here. You will also probably have little control over how your sorrow will materialise. It is important not to let others tell you what the right and wrong response is in such a situation. Similarly, you should not set restrictions for yourself either. You will have to come to terms with your own way of coping. You simply have to let your emotions resolve themselves.

Get Support

Even if you are quite independent, it is vital that you let other people care for you during this difficult time. This can mean relying more on a partner, friends, or family members. Take support wherever, you can. For instance, if you are used to taking charge, why not hand over the reins to the funeral directors. At least for a short period of time, you should give yourself a break and take whatever aid or sustenance that you can from others. If you feel the need to, you can also think about taking up therapy or joining a support group. It is important to feel loved and comforted as you navigate through this trying time.

There is No Timetable

It is a popular misconception that there is a set amount of time for you to grieve. In most instances, people feel as though a year is all that you have to move on from losing someone that you care about. This is a ridiculous notion, however. You cannot possibly place a timetable on your emotions or your emotional wellbeing. You should take your own time in coming to terms with your loss. It will take however long that it will need to. In fact, it is important to remember that you may never be truly able to get over the passing of someone you love.

Prepare for Setbacks

It may feel as though just when you are feeling better that something causes you to have a setback. This is perfectly normal. Even years after the fact, you may find that birthdays, anniversaries, and similar occasions may be trigger events for you. Honouring or remembering that individual on these special days may help you to deal with these incidents a little easier.

This may be a devastating time in your life at the moment. However, you should know that you will be able to find a way to cope with all of this sadness.