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  • 30 Dec 2020
    We all like to assume we know what’s best when it comes to living the worst or best moment in our relationships. But sometimes it’s more than necessary to ask for help – such as a relationship coach or couples’ therapist – who can share some ways to solve relationships problems, yield some pearl drops of wisdom and impart the knowledge you and your partner possibly never figured out on your own.  While it may prove nerve-racking, sometimes a bit pricey and time-consuming, many couples find it beneficial to seek professional help. In this case, couples therapy is a smart choice for those who feel like they’re stuck in a drama and can’t figure out a realistic solution.  However, not everyone sees couples therapy with the same grain of clarity – going to therapy doesn’t mean that your relationship is deteriorating, or something is inherently wrong. The thing is, we all get stuck sometimes and just having a neutral individual involved can work wonders. Remind Yourself Why You’re Together  After you’ve been together for a while, you can easily forget what initially brought you two together, and even easier to take each for granted.  For this reason, couple counselors often suggest couples to make an effort to maintain the freshness with a few simple tricks. It’s easy to get stuck in the day-to-day routine. Your lover will not always seem novel and steal your heart in an instant, which is why reminding yourself why you love them – and telling them – will keep things fresh front and center.  In couples therapy, you will learn that spicing up your date nights, being more affectionate, and having more sex will nourish that spark. Relationship Issues Are Never One Person’s Fault  We know how tempting it may be to condemn each other for the issues in your relationship, but counselors with years of experience in couples therapy want you to know that it’s rarely ever one person’s fault. There is always something in the “middle.” The problem lies somewhere between interaction and the dynamic that you two have honed and formed over time.  Take a closer look at the “life cycle” or your arguing pattern – there is always a trigger, the same thing every time, but there is a feeling this is elicited in one of you. What’s next? A torrent of actions that, if investigated carefully, can expose what trap you two fall into.  Both of you have the ability to interrupt this dance at any given time, but the struggle is pushing yourself to do something new, so you don’t stay caught in the power of the pattern.   Acknowledge and Embrace the Fact that You’re Both so Different  If you and your boyfriend are total opposites, you might start wondering why and how you’re still together. You will also be prone to think your differences are the gist of your issues. But experienced couple therapists are often quick to mention that opposites attract for a reason.  Couples often seem puzzled about how they could have possibly ended up with a partner or spouse who is so opposite from them. The thing is that their preference is owned to evolution, whose main purpose is to keep people alive and procreating. To put it differently, a child is more likely to survive and thrive if its parents have opposite strengths.  So the fact that you and your spouse are opposite can actually be beneficial – especially if you learn to embrace it. Couples often seek, find, and then disagree with an opposing trait in their partner. But in a healthier relationship, we value these traits because we have something to learn from them.  It’s Ok to Go To Bed Angry  We’re all acquainted with the old “never go bed angry” - we make up right away, so we don’t stew on our fury the whole night through. Yet not every counselor will agree with this advice.  You will be surprised to hear that “it’s perfectly fine to go to bed angry” from a couple therapist.  What you will learn in a therapy session - which is quite obvious if you think about it – is that you can’t find a solution while you’re angry.” Sometimes, couples need to part ways for a few hours. Only once you’ve calmed down can you really address the conflict in the relationship productively and positively. When you’re both mad, and it’s bedtime, you can either fight, argue, and yell until the first hours of the morning, or you can simply accept the conflict is what it is right now, go to bed and wake in a much better state to handle the conflict.  The Sooner Your Stop Assuming, The Better  Most couples therapists point out that when people assume they know what their spouses are thinking, they’re usually 100% wrong.  The reason is oftentimes the same – a lot of couples view a situation strictly from only their perception of the situation. This gets worse when, without complete communication with each other, assumptions can start to flow in about what the other person is feeling, thinking, or doing. Most couples act on their own perception without fully solving the whole equation.  Instead of jumping into a conclusion wagon, it’s much better, even healthier, to ask questions. Ask questions based on what you know and confirm a complete understanding of it. Almost 100% of the time, you were wrong, and that’s not such a dreadful thing – because more than likely, you assumed the worst about your partner. It’s healthier and less stressful to cultivate a deeper connection with your spouse since you both understand each other’s point of view.  You will also need to understand that your partner and your relationship are dynamic and always changing – the second you find yourself in the “it used to be like this situation,” you’re trying to work the wrong way in time. A healthy relationship consists of doing small things regularly and checking in with each other. Small or huge gestures are great but what really shapes emotional kinship is listening to each other and becoming closely aware of each other aspirations and dreams.   
    987 Posted by Cynthia Madison
  • We all like to assume we know what’s best when it comes to living the worst or best moment in our relationships. But sometimes it’s more than necessary to ask for help – such as a relationship coach or couples’ therapist – who can share some ways to solve relationships problems, yield some pearl drops of wisdom and impart the knowledge you and your partner possibly never figured out on your own.  While it may prove nerve-racking, sometimes a bit pricey and time-consuming, many couples find it beneficial to seek professional help. In this case, couples therapy is a smart choice for those who feel like they’re stuck in a drama and can’t figure out a realistic solution.  However, not everyone sees couples therapy with the same grain of clarity – going to therapy doesn’t mean that your relationship is deteriorating, or something is inherently wrong. The thing is, we all get stuck sometimes and just having a neutral individual involved can work wonders. Remind Yourself Why You’re Together  After you’ve been together for a while, you can easily forget what initially brought you two together, and even easier to take each for granted.  For this reason, couple counselors often suggest couples to make an effort to maintain the freshness with a few simple tricks. It’s easy to get stuck in the day-to-day routine. Your lover will not always seem novel and steal your heart in an instant, which is why reminding yourself why you love them – and telling them – will keep things fresh front and center.  In couples therapy, you will learn that spicing up your date nights, being more affectionate, and having more sex will nourish that spark. Relationship Issues Are Never One Person’s Fault  We know how tempting it may be to condemn each other for the issues in your relationship, but counselors with years of experience in couples therapy want you to know that it’s rarely ever one person’s fault. There is always something in the “middle.” The problem lies somewhere between interaction and the dynamic that you two have honed and formed over time.  Take a closer look at the “life cycle” or your arguing pattern – there is always a trigger, the same thing every time, but there is a feeling this is elicited in one of you. What’s next? A torrent of actions that, if investigated carefully, can expose what trap you two fall into.  Both of you have the ability to interrupt this dance at any given time, but the struggle is pushing yourself to do something new, so you don’t stay caught in the power of the pattern.   Acknowledge and Embrace the Fact that You’re Both so Different  If you and your boyfriend are total opposites, you might start wondering why and how you’re still together. You will also be prone to think your differences are the gist of your issues. But experienced couple therapists are often quick to mention that opposites attract for a reason.  Couples often seem puzzled about how they could have possibly ended up with a partner or spouse who is so opposite from them. The thing is that their preference is owned to evolution, whose main purpose is to keep people alive and procreating. To put it differently, a child is more likely to survive and thrive if its parents have opposite strengths.  So the fact that you and your spouse are opposite can actually be beneficial – especially if you learn to embrace it. Couples often seek, find, and then disagree with an opposing trait in their partner. But in a healthier relationship, we value these traits because we have something to learn from them.  It’s Ok to Go To Bed Angry  We’re all acquainted with the old “never go bed angry” - we make up right away, so we don’t stew on our fury the whole night through. Yet not every counselor will agree with this advice.  You will be surprised to hear that “it’s perfectly fine to go to bed angry” from a couple therapist.  What you will learn in a therapy session - which is quite obvious if you think about it – is that you can’t find a solution while you’re angry.” Sometimes, couples need to part ways for a few hours. Only once you’ve calmed down can you really address the conflict in the relationship productively and positively. When you’re both mad, and it’s bedtime, you can either fight, argue, and yell until the first hours of the morning, or you can simply accept the conflict is what it is right now, go to bed and wake in a much better state to handle the conflict.  The Sooner Your Stop Assuming, The Better  Most couples therapists point out that when people assume they know what their spouses are thinking, they’re usually 100% wrong.  The reason is oftentimes the same – a lot of couples view a situation strictly from only their perception of the situation. This gets worse when, without complete communication with each other, assumptions can start to flow in about what the other person is feeling, thinking, or doing. Most couples act on their own perception without fully solving the whole equation.  Instead of jumping into a conclusion wagon, it’s much better, even healthier, to ask questions. Ask questions based on what you know and confirm a complete understanding of it. Almost 100% of the time, you were wrong, and that’s not such a dreadful thing – because more than likely, you assumed the worst about your partner. It’s healthier and less stressful to cultivate a deeper connection with your spouse since you both understand each other’s point of view.  You will also need to understand that your partner and your relationship are dynamic and always changing – the second you find yourself in the “it used to be like this situation,” you’re trying to work the wrong way in time. A healthy relationship consists of doing small things regularly and checking in with each other. Small or huge gestures are great but what really shapes emotional kinship is listening to each other and becoming closely aware of each other aspirations and dreams.   
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  • 08 Oct 2018
    When you’re thinking to learn a new language, it might be ideal if you first think of the most spoken languages in the world. It will help you effectively determine what language you should get a grip to boost your value on the job market. However, learning a foreign language will also help your brain development in some unexpected ways. It has been proven that our personality changes when we speak in a foreign language, but also our brain connections. However, the most spoken languages in the world might surprise you, but for more on this topic, keep reading below.   Chinese The numbers of the speakers of this language vary widely, and it would ideal to keep in mind that the “Chinese” language sums up different dialects as well. This is a name given to a family of dialect and sub-dialects. The statistics available at Ethnologue claim that the number of Chinese native speakers reaches somewhere around 1.2 billion. Out of those, a million speak Mandarin. However, nobody can doubt the fact that this is one of the most spoken languages in the world. The main reason why this language is the most spoken in the world is due to a large number of citizens in the area. Recent statistics claim that China has today almost 1.4 billion inhabitants and citizens. The second most important reason why Chinese is growing in the number of speakers that the country is on a continuous development, socially and economically. Being a business hotspot, more and more foreigners choose this language as their second language. Spanish If we only count the native speakers, Spanish is the second most spoken language in the world. Today, more than 400 million people are Spanish native-speakers. As we all know it, Spanish is a language spoken on a couple of continents. This is a relatively easy to learn language. Of course, there are several dialects included in this language, maybe the most notorious one being the Catalan. Since the Spanish reach South America, the language known a rapid development. This way, you will hear Spanish in Europe, South America, and of course, the United States. English Since you’re already here, reading this article, then you might want to know that you’re one of the 360 million that speak this language as a first language. Or, of course, you may be one of those half billion people who speak it as a second language. Whatever you are, you can be sure that you can get around and freely move in every corner of the world, only because you speak this language. And chances are, you will certainly encounter somebody in your travels that also speaks it. This is a widely-spoken language because of economic relations developed between countries and states, speaking different languages. At some point, it has been established that English will be used as a common language by business persons, to understand each other easier. The ease at which English can be picked up by people of different nationalities makes it the preferred language in business and international relations as well. While you may not be able to learn English all by yourself, it is possible to learn it with some English lessons by Skype with a native teacher. Learning English means for many citizens of developing countries an opportunity to a better life. So, if you want to find a better job or move to another country, why not learn this universally-spoken language? Hindi In India, you will find more than 20 official languages. Out of those, the most spoken is Hindi/Urdu. The fact if this is a single language, commonly known as Hindustani, or two different dialects is still debated by linguists all over the world. Hindi is mainly spoken in some parts of Pakistan, as well as Northern India. It is also the official language used in public organizations and bodies, as well as in the educational process. Arabic According to some recent data, the native speakers of Arabic languages reach almost 250 million. However, we’re discussing dialects as well, in this data. While the written Arabic languages and dialects look fairly similar, the spoken ones vary widely. However, a Morocco and Oman locals might still be able to understand each other in the communication process. On the other hand, this matter sparked plenty of debates if the two are the same language. They certainly are different dialects of Arabic origin. Portuguese Thanks to its colonial past, Portuguese is one of the most spoken languages of today’s era. Since the 15th century, when Portuguese travellers and conquerors started to travel the world, searching for new opportunities, more and more people started to get a hold of this rather complicated language. Today, the language is spoken by way over 200 million people all around the world. These speakers are split between Brazil, Mozambique, Cape Verde, Portugal, Moa, Angola and several other regions in the world. Bengali For many, this is a surprise entry in this top. Although not many expected to see Bengali here, the language is spoken today by more than 170 million. Of course, there are multiple dialects spoken and many are only specific to certain areas of the East Bengal or Bangladesh. Russian Russian is becoming an increasingly popular language in communities all over the world. The language is spoken today by almost 170 million. One of the beloved languages by all reading and literature enthusiasts is also very difficult to get a hold of. Japanese Japanese is becoming increasingly popular. Being a business and tech development hot spot, more and more foreigners become interested in learning this language. Around the world, almost 130 million speak this language today. These are some of the most spoken languages around the world. If you want to learn one of the above, make sure that you find specialised services, offered by native speakers. These are the most reliable and you will learn your language of choice in a matter of months!    
    2416 Posted by Cynthia Madison
  • When you’re thinking to learn a new language, it might be ideal if you first think of the most spoken languages in the world. It will help you effectively determine what language you should get a grip to boost your value on the job market. However, learning a foreign language will also help your brain development in some unexpected ways. It has been proven that our personality changes when we speak in a foreign language, but also our brain connections. However, the most spoken languages in the world might surprise you, but for more on this topic, keep reading below.   Chinese The numbers of the speakers of this language vary widely, and it would ideal to keep in mind that the “Chinese” language sums up different dialects as well. This is a name given to a family of dialect and sub-dialects. The statistics available at Ethnologue claim that the number of Chinese native speakers reaches somewhere around 1.2 billion. Out of those, a million speak Mandarin. However, nobody can doubt the fact that this is one of the most spoken languages in the world. The main reason why this language is the most spoken in the world is due to a large number of citizens in the area. Recent statistics claim that China has today almost 1.4 billion inhabitants and citizens. The second most important reason why Chinese is growing in the number of speakers that the country is on a continuous development, socially and economically. Being a business hotspot, more and more foreigners choose this language as their second language. Spanish If we only count the native speakers, Spanish is the second most spoken language in the world. Today, more than 400 million people are Spanish native-speakers. As we all know it, Spanish is a language spoken on a couple of continents. This is a relatively easy to learn language. Of course, there are several dialects included in this language, maybe the most notorious one being the Catalan. Since the Spanish reach South America, the language known a rapid development. This way, you will hear Spanish in Europe, South America, and of course, the United States. English Since you’re already here, reading this article, then you might want to know that you’re one of the 360 million that speak this language as a first language. Or, of course, you may be one of those half billion people who speak it as a second language. Whatever you are, you can be sure that you can get around and freely move in every corner of the world, only because you speak this language. And chances are, you will certainly encounter somebody in your travels that also speaks it. This is a widely-spoken language because of economic relations developed between countries and states, speaking different languages. At some point, it has been established that English will be used as a common language by business persons, to understand each other easier. The ease at which English can be picked up by people of different nationalities makes it the preferred language in business and international relations as well. While you may not be able to learn English all by yourself, it is possible to learn it with some English lessons by Skype with a native teacher. Learning English means for many citizens of developing countries an opportunity to a better life. So, if you want to find a better job or move to another country, why not learn this universally-spoken language? Hindi In India, you will find more than 20 official languages. Out of those, the most spoken is Hindi/Urdu. The fact if this is a single language, commonly known as Hindustani, or two different dialects is still debated by linguists all over the world. Hindi is mainly spoken in some parts of Pakistan, as well as Northern India. It is also the official language used in public organizations and bodies, as well as in the educational process. Arabic According to some recent data, the native speakers of Arabic languages reach almost 250 million. However, we’re discussing dialects as well, in this data. While the written Arabic languages and dialects look fairly similar, the spoken ones vary widely. However, a Morocco and Oman locals might still be able to understand each other in the communication process. On the other hand, this matter sparked plenty of debates if the two are the same language. They certainly are different dialects of Arabic origin. Portuguese Thanks to its colonial past, Portuguese is one of the most spoken languages of today’s era. Since the 15th century, when Portuguese travellers and conquerors started to travel the world, searching for new opportunities, more and more people started to get a hold of this rather complicated language. Today, the language is spoken by way over 200 million people all around the world. These speakers are split between Brazil, Mozambique, Cape Verde, Portugal, Moa, Angola and several other regions in the world. Bengali For many, this is a surprise entry in this top. Although not many expected to see Bengali here, the language is spoken today by more than 170 million. Of course, there are multiple dialects spoken and many are only specific to certain areas of the East Bengal or Bangladesh. Russian Russian is becoming an increasingly popular language in communities all over the world. The language is spoken today by almost 170 million. One of the beloved languages by all reading and literature enthusiasts is also very difficult to get a hold of. Japanese Japanese is becoming increasingly popular. Being a business and tech development hot spot, more and more foreigners become interested in learning this language. Around the world, almost 130 million speak this language today. These are some of the most spoken languages around the world. If you want to learn one of the above, make sure that you find specialised services, offered by native speakers. These are the most reliable and you will learn your language of choice in a matter of months!    
    Oct 08, 2018 2416