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  • 10 Oct 2018
    When someone you love is struggling with such a destructive fight like drug addiction is a heartbreaking moment. Seeing how he or she is going through such a difficult time is making you feel like you have failed as a lover, friend or family member because you were not there to stop him or her earlier before it became an addiction. However, you need to be aware that apart from advising the person to stay away from drugs, you could not have done more because the decision is up to them and so it is the decision to stop using them. All you can do is to show your support during the process and to do your best to make him or her aware of how destructive is this addiction and why it needs to stop immediately. Educate yourself about addiction In order to be able to help your loved one in the process of getting over drug addiction, you have to educate yourself about the topic. Knowing what causes the addiction, what is the thinking mechanism of a drug addict, and how you can help them overcome it. Be patient You need to be aware right from the beginning that helping your loved one in the process of overcoming drugs is not an easy thing to do. There will be moments when you feel like there is nothing you can do for him or her, and that just ignoring the problem is a lot easier than to get involved. However, you surely wish that if you were in the same situation, the people that love you would not give up on you and would do anything that is possible until you are back of your feet, capable of taking care of yourself. So, in this process, you are going to need to have a lot of patience, understanding, and love so that you will be able to deal with such an emotional and hard situation. Gain trust No matter how close you are or used to be with the person that you are trying to help to get over drug addiction, you have to understand that this addiction is making him or her think completely different than before and their perspective about your intentions might be distorted. You need to be aware that trying to help them without gaining their trust first, might end up in estranging them from you even more. Be aware that he or she is going to need time to understand that you are there only to help them and that they should trust you with sharing the burden they are carrying because of the drug addiction.  Show support Even if they are not going to understand right from the beginning why they need to fight in order to get over this addiction, you need to stay by their side and constantly show support until the moment they realize that your intentions are only good ones that are focused on their own good. It is normal to not understand and approve with the fact that your loved one got himself or herself in this situation, but judging him or her and constantly showing them how much you disapprove with them will not be helpful at all. You need to show support in a friendly way that would make them feel comfortable to accept you around them when struggling with this addiction. Understand the reason People start using drugs for various reasons. Whether it is curiosity, to experience the feeling that you get when taking drugs or to deal easier with emotional pain after suffering a trauma that needs to be numbed inside their minds and hearts because it hurts too much, once they start using drugs, addiction is just one step away. In order to give the right support to your loved one, you have to communicate and find out what was the reason that made him or her start using drugs. Only this way you will be able to help them find the right solution for the reason that made them so vulnerable and made them take the wrong path of drug addiction. Give the right advice As I mentioned before, the decision of giving up on drugs is a decision that belongs to the person you are trying to help. Being too pushy about making him or her understand and give up on their addiction will only scare him or her away. You need to make sure that you wait patiently until they decide to give up and until that moment you can just focus on giving the right advice that will help him or her realize faster how noxious drugs are.  Encourage the idea of getting professional help No matter how hard you try to help your loved one, show support and help him or her to find the right solution, you have to understand that sometimes the addiction is too strong to give up at without professional help. Find the best holistic drug rehabs and help your loved one understand that by choosing one and getting professional help he or she will overcome the problem of addiction and what caused it.  Take care of yourself Even if this might sound selfish, you have to make sure that while you are involved in the process of helping your loved one to get over drug addiction, you do not put yourself in danger. You are dealing with a person that is using substances that can make him or her to not think straight and clear as they would normally do and this can make him or her become dangerous for both themselves and the people around them. Also, you need to be emotionally strong and to refuse using drugs thinking that you would understand him or her better by being in their shoes for a little while. Even if is going to be a heartbreaking, emotional, and tough process, step by step, you are going to help your loved one to give up using drugs.
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  • When someone you love is struggling with such a destructive fight like drug addiction is a heartbreaking moment. Seeing how he or she is going through such a difficult time is making you feel like you have failed as a lover, friend or family member because you were not there to stop him or her earlier before it became an addiction. However, you need to be aware that apart from advising the person to stay away from drugs, you could not have done more because the decision is up to them and so it is the decision to stop using them. All you can do is to show your support during the process and to do your best to make him or her aware of how destructive is this addiction and why it needs to stop immediately. Educate yourself about addiction In order to be able to help your loved one in the process of getting over drug addiction, you have to educate yourself about the topic. Knowing what causes the addiction, what is the thinking mechanism of a drug addict, and how you can help them overcome it. Be patient You need to be aware right from the beginning that helping your loved one in the process of overcoming drugs is not an easy thing to do. There will be moments when you feel like there is nothing you can do for him or her, and that just ignoring the problem is a lot easier than to get involved. However, you surely wish that if you were in the same situation, the people that love you would not give up on you and would do anything that is possible until you are back of your feet, capable of taking care of yourself. So, in this process, you are going to need to have a lot of patience, understanding, and love so that you will be able to deal with such an emotional and hard situation. Gain trust No matter how close you are or used to be with the person that you are trying to help to get over drug addiction, you have to understand that this addiction is making him or her think completely different than before and their perspective about your intentions might be distorted. You need to be aware that trying to help them without gaining their trust first, might end up in estranging them from you even more. Be aware that he or she is going to need time to understand that you are there only to help them and that they should trust you with sharing the burden they are carrying because of the drug addiction.  Show support Even if they are not going to understand right from the beginning why they need to fight in order to get over this addiction, you need to stay by their side and constantly show support until the moment they realize that your intentions are only good ones that are focused on their own good. It is normal to not understand and approve with the fact that your loved one got himself or herself in this situation, but judging him or her and constantly showing them how much you disapprove with them will not be helpful at all. You need to show support in a friendly way that would make them feel comfortable to accept you around them when struggling with this addiction. Understand the reason People start using drugs for various reasons. Whether it is curiosity, to experience the feeling that you get when taking drugs or to deal easier with emotional pain after suffering a trauma that needs to be numbed inside their minds and hearts because it hurts too much, once they start using drugs, addiction is just one step away. In order to give the right support to your loved one, you have to communicate and find out what was the reason that made him or her start using drugs. Only this way you will be able to help them find the right solution for the reason that made them so vulnerable and made them take the wrong path of drug addiction. Give the right advice As I mentioned before, the decision of giving up on drugs is a decision that belongs to the person you are trying to help. Being too pushy about making him or her understand and give up on their addiction will only scare him or her away. You need to make sure that you wait patiently until they decide to give up and until that moment you can just focus on giving the right advice that will help him or her realize faster how noxious drugs are.  Encourage the idea of getting professional help No matter how hard you try to help your loved one, show support and help him or her to find the right solution, you have to understand that sometimes the addiction is too strong to give up at without professional help. Find the best holistic drug rehabs and help your loved one understand that by choosing one and getting professional help he or she will overcome the problem of addiction and what caused it.  Take care of yourself Even if this might sound selfish, you have to make sure that while you are involved in the process of helping your loved one to get over drug addiction, you do not put yourself in danger. You are dealing with a person that is using substances that can make him or her to not think straight and clear as they would normally do and this can make him or her become dangerous for both themselves and the people around them. Also, you need to be emotionally strong and to refuse using drugs thinking that you would understand him or her better by being in their shoes for a little while. Even if is going to be a heartbreaking, emotional, and tough process, step by step, you are going to help your loved one to give up using drugs.
    Oct 10, 2018 4666