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  • 15 Feb 2018
    Have you ever had a hard time learning how to talk to women? Are you always running out of things to talk about when meeting someone new? We all know starting a conversation with a complete stranger can be intimidating. As we walk over, sometimes our minds go blank unsure of what to say. Today, I’m going to share a powerful technique that teaches you not only how to talk to women, but it’s something that you can use to spark a conversation and build massive rapport with anyone.  How To Talk To Women: The F.O.R.D. Method The FORD Method is a great way to start strong when getting to master how to talk to women that you’ve just met. An easy way to remember this technique is using the acronym F-O-R-D which, stands for: Family Occupation Recreation Dreams The conversation possibilities from these four categories are endless. Just be sure to ask open-ended questions and avoid questions that can be answered with a yes or no. Use their answers, and the tips I went over last week to build on the conversation. You can check last week’s post by clicking here. Here are some example questions you can ask, and breakdown of each topic. FAMILY What is your family like? What was it like growing up as a kid? Do you have any siblings? And then a follow-up question. If she does have siblings you can ask her what her siblings are like. If she doesn’t, you can ask do you ever wish you did. Studies have shown that when people share family-related matters with strangers, they feel closer to them. You’ll have to keep that in mind when knowing how to talk to women. After all, you usually only share personal information with close friends. The challenge, however, is that asking about family upfront can sometimes come off too strong. What you want to do instead is branch the conversation in a way that family naturally comes up. There are two ways you can do this. One, you can talk about your family first. For example, when I was recently talking to a girl, I mentioned how I was excited to see my little sister over the holidays. I then asked if she had any siblings, which she didn’t. I then asked if she ever wishes she had some, which lead the conversation towards the family. The second way is by making assumptions about her. Next time you talk to a girl you could say, “You look like you come from a big family”. Whether your right or wrong doesn’t matter. Making assumptions is a great way to create a sense of curiosity and spark a conversation. She’ll either wonder why you think she comes from a big family or corrects your statement. Either way, you’re now on the topic of family. OCCUPATION How’s your job going? How did you get into your field? What are your career plans? Our work makes up a big portion of our lives and is probably one of the most used conversation starters. Because of that, it’s the easiest topic out of the four to start with. The trick about making this topic work is not to dwell on the surface level conversation. Let’s say you’re on a date and ask her, “What do you do for a living?”. “I’m a school teacher”, she says. Most guys make the mistake of staying on the surface level asking questions like, “What subject do you teach?”, “What grade?”, “What school?”. Instead, I recommend you move to deeper topics. The way to do that is by getting to the root motivation and emotions for becoming a teacher. You could ask her, “What inspired you to become a teacher?”. You could also comment how “It must feel incredible knowing you’re making an impact on these children at such a pivotal time in their life.” See how this can lead to a deeper conversation than asking, “What subject do you teach?” RECREATION What do you do for fun? What do you like to do that brings a smile to your face? Any vacations planned for next year? Are you into any pro sports? What’s your favorite team? Everyone has some sort of hobby, interest, and passion. When getting to know how to talk to women, it’s important to talk about interests. Like the occupation questions, avoid sticking to surface level topics. Instead, jump into the deep end by focusing on the motivation and emotions. A great way to segue from occupation to recreation is by asking, “What do you like to do when you’re not working?” The best mentality to have on this topic is wondering, “Why is this activity so exciting for this person?” Chances are, the person you’re talking to has a hobby that you may know nothing about. Maybe they love rock climbing but you’ve never been. You could say, “Oh that’s cool. I’ve always thought rock climbing was an interesting sport. Why do you like it so much?” Following up with questions like this allow the other person to dive deeper into their hobby and explain why they love it. As Dale Carnegie says in his book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, “It’s better to be interested than interesting.” DREAMS What did you want to be when you were a kid? If you could travel anywhere, where would you go? What do you think you’ll be doing in five years? What’s your favorite place to visit? What’s the most exciting thing on your bucket list? This is one of the most powerful topics you can talk to someone about. Unfortunately, most people are told to take the “safe” route instead of pursuing their dreams. If you’re one of the few people that actually brings up and supports their dream, the other person will think very fondly of you. This is usually the last of the four topics I bring up. Most people are sensitive when discussing their dreams since they are so used to people focusing on why it can’t happen. Because of this, be sure to build up a good amount of rapport, from the other three topics, so you can get truly meaningful responses to dream questions. Again, just like the previous two topics, get into deeper level conversations. Focus on the motivation and emotions associated with their response. You’re getting to understand how to talk to women. And you’ll definitely have an easier time establishing rapport.   Your Weekend Mission (If you choose to accept) Beginners: Memorize one question for each section and do 3 approaches with the focus of using the FORD method to build comfort. The goal would be to touch all four topics using the questions you memorized. Advanced: Same as beginners, but 6 approaches. They only count if you can get through the entire FORD method.    Alright, guys, that’s how to talk to women and have deeper conversations. Using the FORD method! Be sure to go out there and start implementing it RIGHT AWAY. Success loves the speed of implementation. If you like tips like these, then I would highly recommend you check out The Language of Attraction or attend a BOOTCAMP. Don’t know what The Language of Attraction is? This is all about the conversation. You’ll know how to attract beautiful women anyplace, anytime, and in any situation. This is the only program that uses your own unique personality to attract women. Other “gurus” will try to mold you to be exactly like them…. They’ll have you dress like them and act like them even if that’s not who you really are. We’ll show you what naturally attracts women.  Click Here For More Details Interested in a BOOTCAMP? We’re going to be in Las Vegas, Cancun, New York City, Los Angeles, Miami, Brazil, Argentina, Colombia, Spain, Germany, Sweden, Bulgaria, Cyprus, Thailand, Dubai, India, Australia and that’s us just getting started. If you’re serious about getting results with women FAST, then this is your ticket. Here are a few things we’ll cover: Discover a POWERFUL way to approach, attract, number close, and get dates during the day! Destroy your approach anxiety and spark instant attraction with your body language as you get women to CHASE YOU! Get Tons of infield practice, real-life drills, role-playing, and instant feedback on your interactions to make approaching women completely second nature!
    128 Posted by The Attractive Man
  • 24 May 2018
    Have you ever been obsessed with a girl you just met and it completely screwed up the interaction? Look, women are not attracted to guys that put them on pedestals.  And if you’re stuck on a woman with an unhealthy obsession, it’s probably screwing with your life. How To Stop Obsessing Over Hot Women   Don’t Put Girls On Pedestals You’ve probably heard of “putting a woman on a pedestal”, the tendency for some of us to view a woman’s positive qualities and ignore her negative ones. Optimistically looking at people and seeing the best is a GOOD thing. The problem comes when we PROJECT qualities onto a woman that she doesn’t actually have, or when we project that the side we like is her ALL the time as if she’s not a normal human with moods swings, problems, and a lot of stuff going on. The problem with this mode of thinking is that WHO SHE ACTUALLY IS doesn’t match your PROJECTED FANTASY about who she is. This is always a recipe for disappointment. Guys with this issue fall into one of two camps, either they don’t operate from an ABUNDANCE mentality (they can’t find a bunch of options to meet their own needs), or they have very little experience, leaving very few references in their minds to navigate real relationships with real people. Before I understood these concepts, I used to think like this all the time. One girl, in particular, caught me for a loop at the bar in my hometown. We started vibing, shared some laughs, and eventually made out on the dancefloor. What a great night! After that, however, I started PROJECTING onto her all of the stuff I wanted in a girlfriend, some of which she didn’t actually have. Inadvertently, I stopped viewing her as a human, and just viewed her through the lens as my ideal partner, who could meet all of my needs and nullify all of my insecurities. Ignoring who she actually was, I began to get disappointed over and over again because she wasn’t meeting my expectations. Instead of ACTUALLY ENGAGING with her and basking in the amazingness of who she actually was, I just kept trying to get her to act like I THOUGHT she SHOULD be acting. That blew up in my face, and she stopped talking to me altogether. Do you have a similar situation? Let’s see how can we stop projecting in our obsessions and see her for who she really is? TIP 1Knock her off her pedestal by flipping the script  You are the prize. If you put her on a pedestal in your mind, you might be giving off needy or weak vibes, waiting around for her to give you the right signs, give you permission to make a move, or approve of you. STOP THAT. You are the prize to be won. When you realize your own value to her, you’ll expect her to work for you. This has a double benefit of both showing your value, and stopping weak behaviors that turn her off. TIP 2Focus on you Every hero has a quest, and every man has a mission. When you prove to yourself that you have ambition and success in other areas, you can validate yourself, instead of waiting for her to do it for you. Find your mission Pour Everything into it Challenge yourself to crush it. Step up like a man and make things happen, rather than just waiting around to get lucky. TIP 3Manage your own emotions When you envision a woman who can complete you, you tend to see yourself as “not good enough”, or “broken”. You don’t need anyone to complete you, you’re awesome. Prove it to yourself, and she’ll notice it too, in the way you carry yourself. Own your space in the world Take responsibility for your own emotions Take responsibility for how you make others feel, too. When you believe you’re a powerful influence on the people around you, you ARE! TIP 4Qualify her to fit into YOUR life. When you get caught up with infatuation in the early stages of meeting someone new, step up and get to know her. Make a list of standards that she must meet, and then ask her about each one, evaluating how she fits in. This will do two things; 1) It will free you from projecting ethereal or unrealistic expectations on women, and 2) It will bring attention to LOOKING FOR these qualities, so that you may see them in other people as well. This will broaden your pool of dateable women and you’ll be taking a massive step toward an abundance mentality. The core idea behind getting over your obsession with new girls is REPLACING YOUR EXPECTATIONS WITH REALITY, rather than your own myopic fantasy. Final Thoughts Armed with both a clear understanding of your own standards and an idea of how a woman you’re attracted to is operating, you’ll be able to see these qualities in everyone. Rather than PROJECTING a fantasy, EVALUATE the reality of every new woman you meet. Take action to ACTUALLY engage with a woman and you’ll free yourself from stalling in fantasy land obsessing over any one girl. Now if you’re asking yourself, “Sure I’ll remember to do all that, but what do I say to a girl?” We got you covered: We created this Free Conversation Cheat Sheet where I break down exactly what to say after “Hi” to make her want you. You get: My top conversation starters for any situation… Simple techniques to never run out of things to say… A list of my favorite games to play that create a fun-flirty vibe And simple ways to escalate the interaction. And more!  
    118 Posted by The Attractive Man
  • 04 May 2018
    Do you know exactly what to do when a hot girl looks at you? Lots of guys blow it. That FIRST GLANCE is crucial for setting the tone. You HAVE to know HOW to react to this situation! ​​Your only chance to seal the deal could SLIP AWAY in a heartbeat.  So what should you do when a girl looks at you? Before we go over what to do, I noticed a lot of pickup artists’ usually recommend you act all aloof and mysterious, like skulking at an area trying to act as if you’re waiting for women to come to you instead. That doesn’t work very well. If anything, women will find you creepy, and probably stay away from you for good. Seriously, don’t give off a serial killer vibe.   If she looks at you and you are taking your time it can ruin the mood and can make it seem like you are scared to talk to her. And don’t do the infamous “This drink’s from that guy across the table” – If you’re going to buy her a drink then take it to her yourself! Now, most of the time when a girl looks at you, that means she’s interested in you, so that’s a great start. All you have to do now is capitalize on the situation.     First: Make Sure to Look Back! Women love a man of action. Alpha males are what attracts women the most! So take charge and control. Women usually don’t make the first move, MEN do. She’s looking at you to make sure you get the message. When you’ve caught her looking at you, look back without hesitation. If she looks away before you get the chance, keep looking back for a few seconds to catch her attention. It’s important that she knows you noticed her. Looking back can already create sexual tension, and that’s even before any word come out of your mouth! Maintain dominance when looking back. Don’t act all meek and stare at the floor – If she stares back, keep looking at her as if you’re enjoying each other, even before you get near. Second: Smile Now that you’ve caught her attention, make sure you smile at her! That’s one of the things that attracts a woman the most. You should check our other article out – it has all you need to know to learn how to attract girls! According to research, smiling activates the pleasure sensors in our body almost the same as eating chocolate. Simply looking at someone’s smile literally brightens up your day! A chin up, confident smile is the way to go. It actually gives women comfort and shows that you’re going to be a fun guy to be with. When you’re looking back at her, the moment she notices, give her the best smile you have – one that says “hey, let’s have some fun” You can also look away and smile for a moment, then look back at her. This draws a certain allure and mystery while at the same time acknowledging that you’re going to approach her and would love to know her better.  Here are also some things you should not do: Avoid a creepy nodding smile or cheesy smirk. And please don’t frown thinking it’s cool to feel entitled. Women hate that. Don’t try too much to force a smile either, just relax, make sure it comes naturally as if you appreciate her looking at you and you’re enjoying every moment. A good way to know your perfect smile is to practice in front of the mirror every day – go ahead, it actually helps!   Third: Establish Powerful Eye Contact Confidence dictates control. When you look at a woman, always try to maintain eye contact even before the conversation starts! Check her reaction, the moment you’ve looked back and she notices, lock eyes immediately. Keep at it if she’s doing the same, it’s actually a very enjoyable stare-down especially after you’ve thrown the perfect smile at her. If she looks away quickly, that means one of three things – she got creeped out, OR she’s the shy type, OR she’s playing hard to get. Yes, women do these all the time. Whatever the reason, you shouldn’t give up. If you think she’s the shy type, then give her enough time to adjust, turn it down a notch, but don’t wait too long to approach or you’ll lose your chance! If you think she’s playing hard to get, then, by all means, keep the confidence up and take control. Remember to focus on her eyes, it can be a turn-off and unclassy to stare at her body rather than her face. And Finally: Approach Her Taking the previous tips into consideration, approaching her is the best part. Remember guys, a woman looking at you is an invitation. Women don’t make the move, MEN do. Instinctively, women go for the aggressive and assertive man, because that’s exactly what they look for in males – security, and if you’re sloppy and slow, that looks like a weakness and a turn-off. When women throw out the signal, men who make the move are instantly more attractive. Remember that Body movements are important, walking tall, with a straight back and your head up. No slouching or looking at the ground.
    113 Posted by The Attractive Man
  • 15 Sep 2018
    Here are my 5 secrets to make her fall in love with you! Whether you just met, it’s your first date or you’ve been dating a while, girls want a story. They fantasize about a fairytale romance. Do what I tell you in this video and you will be able to create feelings of intense connection and love very quickly. Some guys tend to believe that they there’s an elaborate formula to make a girl fall in love with you. Or that it’s all about money, fame, or looks for them. They couldn’t be more wrong: #5 : Create a Story Girls want a good story of how you guys met. Think about it, Women are conditioned by romance moves, and even by Disney movies as a kid, and the prince and princess never meet on tinder or at a club. Women fantasize about a movie moment where they meet their prince charming in a romantic way, like a bookstore or salsa class or any random unexpected way during the day where the man needs balls to approach her. Like for me, I get approached way more at night, but it rarely happens during the day and I wish a charming guy would just come to say hi.  And the same is true for a date create lots of moments for her throughout the date, for example, if you take her to the movies and make her miss a good scene because you are trying to kiss her, it’s not going to be as special or memorable as going for the kiss on the beach under the stars or while dancing to a romantic song in the park. Chivalry isn’t dead! #4 : Bring her fairy tale to life Pay close attention to what she says to ultimately figure out her goals and dreams in life. Then create alignment with her future and your future. For example: after a couple of dates and she tells you she wants kids, you can ask her “do you think I’d be a good dad?” Therefore, you are getting her to start thinking about you as a fatherly-like figure. But make sure to always be real and authentic.  Another example could be if she wants to be an entrepreneur, you could talk about, how fun would it be to work on your businesses together on the beach.  But make sure to be real and authentic, just don’t make stuff up. You don’t want to waste both your time if you are not compatible. #3 : Create an adventure The point here is to create great memories together because the more great memories you create the more invested and connected she will feel. So, instead of just going to dinner and the movies, like every other guy, plan something more memorable and original like fun activities together, for example, Rollerblading, ice skating, dancing, or hiking, remember that motion creates emotion. No girl wants to be bored on a date. #2 : Create Emotion People are used to having conversations about the same topics over and over again about work, the weather, family and where they are from. It is fine to talk about these things but if that is the bulk of your conversation, she’ll just go into her autopilot response and won’t FEEL anything, and it’s emotions that create powerful memories. For example: do you remember where you were when 9/11 happened, or when donald trump got elected? Probably bc You were either really excited Donald Trump was elected or really pissed. Either way, you were emotionally charged. But do you remember what you had for dinner last tuesday? Probably not because it wasn’t emotional, unless it was your birthday or you did something unique. That’s because memories form through emotion. If she doesn’t feel anything then she won’t even remember you, let alone fall in love with you. The worst thing you could do is be boring. In fact, it’s better to create any emotion than no emotion. A man is usually too scared to offend or upset the woman, so he plays it safe. Ask memorable questions like: “What would you tell your younger self?” “What are your main goals in life?” “What’s one thing no one knows about you?” The first date I had with a guy was so memorable and I ended up dating him for 2 years after that. So keep her stimulated, most importantly her mind stimulated with emotion & excitement.  It’s exciting and romantic memories that create the feeling of love. #1 : Show Affection the way she wants it You see, there are 5 major ways to show affection, also known as the 5 love languages. Touch – massage, head scratch Quality Time – attention is all on her Words of Affirmation – telling her what you like, care about, Acts of Service – doing something for her Gift Giving – thoughtful presents (not necessarily expensive) that surprise and give value You see, not every woman wants affection the same way. All of these forms of appreciation are important, but some are stronger than others for different people.   For example, they are all important to me, but one of my strongest love languages is physical touch. The key is to find out which are most important to her, because you might think you are giving her all this value by communicating to her in your own love language, when really you might be smothering her. One way to find out her love languages is to pay attention to how she reacts by reading her body language. If you touch her and she recoils or if you compliment her and she shuts it down then those might not be her love languages. You can even ask her, “would you rather a back massage or a receive gift?”. Or can even ask the girl if she knows what her love languages are, and if not you can explain it to her.  Once you know her strongest forms of receiving affection, then simply start showing affection the way she wants. But make sure not to overdo it too soon. Women should earn your affection. Final Thoughts Remember, if you can create a story for her, get imagining a future with you, make fun memories, spark romantic feelings, and show affection the way she wants, feelings of love will be right around the corner. So, to help you out, Matt created a free conversation cheat sheet. where he breaks down exactly what to say after “Hello” to make her want you. You get: Our top conversation starters for any situation… Simple techniques to never run out of things to say and create emotion… A list of games to play that create fun-flirty memories And simple ways to escalate the interaction. And more
    103 Posted by The Attractive Man
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5 Creepy Things Guys do that Turn Girls Off

Approaching someone new, and flirting with them can be super nerve-wracking. We’ve ALL been there. When meeting a new girl, an important thing to remember is that she will feel nervous too!

Meeting anyone new can be a little tense. If you can do something to release that nervous tension, then you’ve got a great chance. A girl wants to feel safe and at ease in your presence. That’s what attracts women. If you create awkward tension by coming across even a little creepy, she’s going to be on guard and you’re going to lose her interest.


MISTAKE 1: They don’t approach after making eye contact!

The first mistake I’ve seen a lot of guys make is that they take FOREVER to approach after making eye contact. When I’m out with my girlfriends, you can guarantee there’s going to be at least one guy that night who makes eye contact with one of us across the room. And then continues to stare over at you for 10-15 mins until they gain the courage to approach.

If you think you’re being fun and playing hard to get building that “Will they/ won’t they?” vibe across the bar, you’re wrong.

The only thing you’ve succeeded in doing is giving off stalker vibes and making the girl feel really uncomfortable knowing you’re even there. You need to approach quickly after making eye contact. Maybe catch her eye once or twice or even three times and then approach. This will make you seem confident and secure and will help her feel more at ease.


MISTAKE 2: They get too close!

The second mistake a lot of guys make is getting too close, too soon. My neighbor, a single guy, asked me a good question the other day… “What if you can’t make eye contact because it’s crowded or you just can’t seem to catch a girl’s glance? What do you do?”

This is a great question because what you do here can definitely make or break your chances. If you can’t get her attention easily, it’s definitely okay to approach her still! You’ve just got to make sure you do it the right way.

The best guideline to remember here is to respect her personal bubble. You don’t want her to feel threatened or nervous by you before you even get the chance to flirt! I have had guys approach me in a bar who tap my shoulder and when I turn around, they are literally five inches from my face!

This will immediately put any girl on edge. If you need to tap someone on the shoulder to get their attention, that’s great, but do it with an arm’s length between you and approach from the side if you can!


MISTAKE 3: They don’t know what to say!

Okay, so you’ve approached the girl… now what? This seems like basic advice but you need to approach with confidence and you NEED to have something to say to her! Practice this in a mirror, or with a friend, or anything you need to do. We also have an article about approaching a girl who doesn’t speak the same language as you!

Keep the conversation light, use a silly pickup line, or make a joke, or you can even tease her a little… but make sure you have SOMETHING to say other than “Hey, I’m so and so.”

Just this weekend, A guy, with whom I had made eye contact a couple times, came up to me and said  “Hey, I’m Bryan” and I smiled and said “Hey! I’m Nicole, nice to meet you.” and then he kind of dropped his head and was silent for like the longest 5 seconds and then goes… “uhhh so are you from around here?”

Needless to say, this conversation went nowhere.  After you introduce yourself, you can, and should, make a flirty comment… maybe compliment something she’s wearing, or her eyes or smile… ANYthing about her! Then use your surroundings as topic cues! Are you at a new bar or an old favorite? Talk about that!

If you’re in a coffee shop or store, make comments about your order or tell a story about something you see. By using your surroundings as cues, you can keep the conversation relevant and interactive for BOTH of you. Finding common ground can be a little awkward for anyone, so using cues around you is an easy way to get an idea of what a person likes and thinks.


MISTAKE 4: The Creepy Stare!

Making TOO much eye contact.

This can get a little tricky to find the right balance, but just as the guy who wouldn’t make eye contact with me was weird, making too much eye contact is equally, if not more, creepy. My good friend went on a date recently and the guy made a comment about how her eyes were really pretty… and then basically didn’t look away from them!

Even when she looked away, and tried to distract his gaze, he would immediately return to looking her straight in the eye. This is obviously an extreme example but it’s important to find a good balance that you’re both comfortable with.


MISTAKE 5: Too touchy-feely! 

Too much or unwelcome physical contact can also make a girl feel creeped out. This absolutely differs from girl to girl but you need to pay attention to her body language. Not only how much, but the way, you touch her really matters.

You definitely want to establish a touching interaction fairly soon in the convo, but these first physical interactions need to be light and quick. A nice touch on the arm or shoulder, or maybe at the small of her back if you’re walking… these are all great! Keep it playful! Don’t wrap your arm around her or anything like that just yet. That can make her feel trapped or uneasy.

If you’re having a chat and playfully touch her arm and she smiles and continues talking, then you’re probably good to do that again. She’ll most likely even reciprocate during the conversation. Also, if you touch her and she kinda pulls away or takes a step back, doing it again is probably going to make her feel uncomfortable.

Just because she pulled away doesn’t mean she’s not into you! If the conversation is still going well, it may just mean she’s not ready for that kind of interaction yet. Continue flirting and pay attention to body language, and she’ll let you know when she’s ready. If the conversation dies and feels awkward after a touch, that’s a pretty clear sign that she’s not into it, so you’ll know to make a nice exit and not waste your time with someone who’s not interested.

So I’ve covered the 5 mistakes – a lot of these things are actually EASILY AVOIDABLE as they are kind of based on a lack of confidence or nervousness. If you want to lose that approach anxiety and explode your confidence, we put together a free Confidence Cheat Sheet that gives you just what you need to gain the strength to approach a girl you like!