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  • 12 Jul 2011
    Yesterday I returned home from a 23-day road trip. It was an incredible experience, and I’m really glad I took the time to do it. I drove 4100 miles (6600 km) through 9 U.S. states (Nevada, California, Oregon, Washington, Montana, Wyoming, Idaho, Utah, and Arizona) and 2 Canadian provinces (British Columbia and Alberta). Beginning in Las Vegas, I traveled through Reno, Sacramento, San Francisco, Ashland, Portland, Seattle, Vancouver (BC), Kelowna, Banff, and Calgary with Rachelle. Then Rachelle flew from Calgary to Winnipeg, and I drove solo from Calgary through Glacier Park, Columbia Falls & Kalispell (MT), Flathead Forest, Yellowstone Park, Grand Teton Park, Salt Lake City, and finally back to Vegas. Day 21 was the most memorable for me because I pushed myself beyond my comfort zone. On that day I got up at 4:45am in Columbia Falls, a small Montana mountain town west of Glacier Park. I packed up and hit the road at 5:50am and drove 400 miles to Yellowstone National Park in Wyoming, visiting Earthquake Lake along the way (this lake was formed in 1959 when a 7.5 earthquake caused a massive landslide that buried a campground and choked a river). During the first hour of the drive while I was driving through Flathead Forest in the dark before dawn, a large deer sprang out of the dense woods at full speed and darted in front of my car. I instinctively swerved to avoid it and missed it by a split second. It was fortunate that I didn’t lose control of the car or crash into a tree. My heart was racing for several minutes after that. Later on that same drive, another small deer ran onto the highway as well, although with enough distance that it was easy to avoid. I later learned that in Yellowstone Park, about 100 animals are killed each year by motorists. I don’t think they’re counting small rodents like squirrels and chipmunks. I made it to Yellowstone Park just before noon. I explored the west side of the park for 4 hours, visiting many interesting sites along the way including rivers, geysers (including witnessing a timely Old Faithful eruption), various hot springs, Yellowstone Lake, and seeing gorgeous terrain all around. I saw many deer and bison as well as a wolf and a small bear. At 4pm I drove south through Grand Teton Park, enjoying its amazing sights, especially the snowy mountains near the Snake River. Then I continued driving for several more hours down many single-lane Wyoming roads until I reached Salt Lake City at 10:30pm. I didn’t know where I was going to stay in advance, so I used my phone to find a hotel and booked a room at the counter when I got there. Fortunately there was a 24-hour grocery store across the street where I was able to procure a late dinner. I drove 790 miles that day, much of it on winding mountain roads at 45 mph. I probably spent 13-14 hours behind the wheel. That’s more than I’ve ever driven on a single day in my life. It was an amazing experience seeing all the magical natural beauty from Montana to Utah. When I finally collapsed into bed and closed my eyes, I still felt like I was speeding down the highway. I kept dreaming that I was driving. I can’t condense 23 days of travel into a single blog post, but I can say that this physical journey helped me see my life from a new perspective. It gave me more clarity about what’s important to me and what isn’t. In some ways I was reminded of Elizabeth Gilbert’s experiences in Eat Pray Love, although a more accurate descriptor for this trip would be Eat Play Drive. One realization I had is that I need to change the way I manage incoming communication. My current approach isn’t working for me, so as of today, I’m changing it. Years ago I realized that I can’t possibly respond to all of the feedback I get, but on this trip I had a further realization. People shouldn’t even be sending me so much email in the first place. I don’t even want to look at it anymore. I’m referring mainly to messages people send me through my contact form, but this applies to some other communication channels as well. For example, the last time I checked my voicemail, I had 22 messages: 2 were hang ups, 2 were fan feedback messages (both from the same person), and 18 were spam calls from solicitors. What was the point in listening to it? And how much of my life should I continue to devote to this? When I first started blogging in 2004, some of the feedback I received was useful and actionable. But somewhere along the way, after tens of thousands of messages, it became too much of the same — a “been there, done that” sort of thing. To the individual senders, it may seem like their messages are unique, but to me it has become nothing but re-runs. The routine of processing email has become pointless — and extremely boring. I think the road trip highlighted these feelings because I was away from my daily routine for so long. Set against the backdrop of adventurous travel, I was able to clearly grasp a waste of life it is to spend my time reading messages that I don’t need to read, regardless of how well-intentioned they may be from the sender’s perspective. I still value quality feedback, but these days the actionable items come from people who know me really well — normally people I see in person. People who only communicate with me via the Internet seldom provide actionable feedback; they’re almost always projecting some aspect of their psyches onto me, as a way of asking me to solve the problem within themselves that they aren’t ready to face yet. They don’t understand the details of my situation well enough to be of help. Another aspect is that many of the messages I receive are very needy. At one time I was glad to help anyone who requested it, but it’s become clear that the people who email me so casually are almost always seeking quick fixes rather than real growth. They contact me because it’s easy and because I’m accessible, but when I give them an honest reply, they take no direct action because they aren’t ready to change yet. A person who is ready to change will do a lot more than send a casual email to someone they’ve never met; by and large these people simply aren’t serious. They’re doing what’s easy because they’re hoping to avoid having to do what’s hard, such as quitting the meaningless job or leaving the unfulfilling relationship. They don’t like being told that the path of conscious growth requires them to face their fears, not hide from them. It’s a mistake for them to contact me. I don’t sell Band Aids. So I’m shutting the door on that kind of communication. I could hire an assistant to process all of this communication for me, but what would be the point? Most of those messages are directed to me personally, and they don’t serve any essential business purpose, so there’s no real basis for outsourcing to an assistant. Consequently, I realized the best solution is to simply put a brick in my mailbox, so to speak. Turn off the pathways that invite so many casual messages from being sent in the first place. So I’ve done exactly that. This morning I removed the contact formfrom my website. In its place is a message explaining that I’m no longer available to be contacted through this site. There are plenty of what-if scenarios that could make this seem like a bad idea. But in weighing the pros and cons, I feel that overall this is the right decision for me. It probably wouldn’t make sense for most other online businesses, but it’s a reasonable solution for my particular situation. It’s also easy enough to go back to the previous approach if I don’t like the results, but I doubt I will. I may tweak the solution over time, however, so that I can keep high-value, low-volume communication channels open while closing low-value, high-volume channels. I also unfollowed the 300+ people I’d been following on Twitter. It’s not because I don’t like them. It’s because when I follow someone, they can send me direct messages there, which creates yet another inbox for me. Twitter doesn’t seem to provide a way to disable DMs, so this is the only viable solution I can see. The small number of people who connected with me via DMs can contact me in other ways anyway, so all this really does is simplify my communication pathways. As for other channels like Facebook and the forums, I’m not sure what, if any, changes I may make there. Those are less problematic though because people have to be friends/members in order to send personal messages, so the direct communication volume is much lower. For now I’ll just maintain the status quo unless it becomes an issue. Does this mean I’m becoming anti-social and hiding behind a virtual wall? It’s really the opposite of that. I’d rather connect with interesting people face to face instead of receive messages via the Internet. And I’d rather spend more time traveling since I find it beneficial for my own path of growth. So if you’re reading this website, and you feel the urge to contact me with your feedback, question, proposal, etc., don’t do it. If that bothers you, well… I suppose you’ll have to get used to disappointment. I don’t even care to receive typo reports — people will still be able to figure out the message, despite the Typo Gremlin’s mischief. I could offer up an explanation for why this is a good thing for everyone, but it will save us all time if I fess up that I’m doing this purely for selfish reasons. That may not be entirely accurate, but the simplicity of this assumption will save me some typing. So what’s the growth lesson here? Perhaps it would be wise for you to do your own soul-searching. Are your communication channels adding tremendous value to your life, or are they simply wasting your precious life? What would happen if you bricked up some of those inboxes and made yourself less available? What if you did it as an experiment for a week or so? Would your whole world come crashing down? Or would it free up more time to do some of those crazy, adventurous things you’ve always wanted to do… like take a monstrous road trip to places you’ve said you’ll visitsomeday. Is all of that emailing and forum posting and Facebooking really helping, or would you rather be smooching someone beside a beautiful waterfall? You decide. There’s no right or wrong answer here per se — just decisions and consequences. In my case I’m willing to accept the consequences of being less accessible, so that I can direct more time, attention, and energy towards other pursuits. Here’s an extra travel tip: Do NOT eat the nachos made with 10 different kinds of beans in Banff an hour before driving to Calgary!
    2621 Posted by UniqueThis
  • 12 Jul 2011
    This article continues our exploration of Polarity.  If you haven’t yet digested the first article, you’ll probably want to do so before reading this one, since now we’re going to extend those concepts even further. A quick review Every thought has two components:  content and energy.  Content is the data portion of a thought, and energy is the carrier that gives a thought the power to manifest.  Think of each thought as being like a radio wave.  The electromagnetic radio wave is the energy component, and the information being transmitted is the content. Our bodies behave like energetic receiver-transmitters, translating the energy that flows through us into emotional states.  High-energy thoughts generate intense emotional states.  Low-energy thoughts generate little or no emotion. Thought energy has a polarity.  That polarity is either in-flowing or out-flowing.  In-flowing thoughts focus on receiving and acquiring.  Out-flowing thoughts focus on creating and giving. The thoughts with the greatest power to manifest are those which are highly polarized, meaning that your attention is primarily focused on inflow or outflow but not both.  It is possible for the energy component of a thought to have a mixture of both in-flowing and out-flowing polarities, but those opposite polarities will cancel each other, and the thought will have significantly less power to manifest.  Electromagnetic waves at the same frequency can interfere with each other, so even though the overall energy of each signal is high, the content of both signals ends up as garbled static.  Thoughts behave similarly. The manifestation of a highly polarized thought can occur through motivated action or passive synchronicity or (usually) a combination of both.  Ultimately the intentional energy is what sparks the chain of events leading to the eventual manifestation. To improve your ability to manifest an intention, make a choice to use either in-flowing or out-flowing energy but not both.  As you will soon see, that choice is much more significant than it appears at first glance. What goes around comes around As you might suspect, the flow of energy never stops.  It is always circulating.  Consider the basic patterns of polarized energy flow. Polarized outflow:  In this situation you focus your attention on the outflow.  Your intention is aligned with creating, giving, or contributing.  Your outward flow of energy causes an associated energetic response from the universe, so the energy flows right back to you again.  It may flow back to you through other people, through money, through loving relationships, etc.  But there will always be a compensating return flow.  The best way to receive that return flow is with gratitude; then send it back out again to generate more outflow.  The rule for this polarity is:  Giving is its own reward. Polarized inflow:  In this situation you focus your attention on the inflow.  Your intention is aligned with getting, acquiring, or achieving.  Your inward flow of energy causes an associated energetic response from the universe, so this energetic debt must flow back out of you again.  In this case the compensating return flow will be some kind of payback.  It may be an outward flow of money, work to be completed, the manifestation of competitors, etc.  The rule for this polarity is:  we live in a competitive world, and you have to look out for number one. Mixed flow:   Attempting to mix the two flows together will generally create an energetic mess.  Instead of building a strong, steady flow in one direction, you will manifest chaotic turbulence.  Your job is to focus on one end and let the universe handle the return flow.  This is what it means to “go with the flow.”  If you focus on giving, you will receive too.  If you focus on getting, you will manifest a compensating outflow.  But if you send out energy in both directions, you will have to deal with the summation of both return flows.  This constant shifting of your energy will make your life seem far more random and accidental than it really is, but you’re really just be tossed around by the wake of your own thought waves. Creating energetic chaos by constantly shifting polarities is something you’re always free to do.  If you wish to be tossed around by the currents of life, go ahead.  In fact, most people do exactly this.  But it’s a mistake to blame outside forces for your current situation when you’re only dealing with the natural reflections of the energies you’ve produced in the first place. Karma The concept of karma is easy to explain in terms of polarized energy flow.  The energies you put out will always come back to you.  The polarity of outflow generates positive karma, while the polarity of inflow generates negative karma (i.e. karmic debt).  If you heavily favor one polarity over the other, it’s easier to observe the karmic reflections.  However, if you frequently switch polarities or mix them together, you’ll have a hard time connecting the dots between your experiences and the thoughts that spawned them. I want to emphasize that negative karma isn’t necessarily a terrible thing if you’re willing to accept the karmic reflections and pay them willingly.  Karmic debt is much like financial debt.  It can be used constructively, or it can overwhelm you.  Those who are skilled with the polarity of inflow learn to accept the karmic debt created by their intentions and pay it willingly rather than resisting it. Understanding inflow and outflow  In the previous article, when I explained the polarities of inflow and outflow, I failed to do them justice.  As I scanned the feedback (via email and forums), it was clear that many people thought I was describing two sides of the same coin, like yin and yang.  Some suggested the best option would be to balance the two polarities.  But these polarities are not something you’d want to balance.  Saying that you should balance the polarities of outflow and inflow is like saying you should balance your good deeds with evil ones… or that you should punch as many people as you hug.  In this case balance is not a desirable quality, unless you want to be a very conflicted individual. The confusion was my fault for selecting terms like inflow and outflow that imply an inherent balance.  How can you have inflow without outflow, and vice versa?  The difference between polarities is more extreme though, and I’ll attempt to do a better job distinguishing between them here.  Instead of inflow and outflow, I’ll use different terms to describe them:  fear (instead of inflow) and love (instead of outflow).  These terms are probably more accurate labels, since they imply fundamentally different ways of relating to life.  They are polar opposites, but they aren’t the kind you’d want to balance or blend together. Let me describe these two energetic polarities in a slightly different way now, this time using the labels of fear and love. Fear Fear (inflow) is the energy of survival, power, and control.  It is associated with intense emotions such as greed, victory, or lust.  Fear energy seeks expression through the acquisition of power.  It wants to overwhelm, to dominate, to conquer, to possess.  When you fantasize about dominating or controlling others or your environment, you’re summoning fear energy. If you want a great role model for mastering fear energy, picture the Emperor character from Star Wars. Fear is a specific way of relating to life that says, “I am inherently vulnerable, and the more power I have, the less vulnerable I become.”  Life is a competitive venture, and ultimately you can’t trust anyone but yourself.  The point of life is to increase your power.  The part of you that believes you need to acquire more power, more money, more status, or a better position is the part that resonates with fear energy.  If a fear-polarized person could pick a magical power, s/he would choose something to increase his/her dominance over others or the environment, probably something like mind control. The peak emotion of polarized fear energy is that of feeling unstoppably powerful.  When you build a certain intensity of fear energy, you will feel incredibly powerful and dominant.  This is how those who polarize with fear energy connect with God or Source.  They strive to become gods unto themselves. Love Love is the energy of connectedness, creation, and service.  It is associated with intense emotions such as joy, peace, and oneness.  Love seeks expression through giving and creativity.  It wants to connect, to heal, to unite, to inspire.  When you intensely desire to serve the highest good of all, you’re summoning love energy. If you want a great role model for mastering love energy, the best example I can think of is Jesus Christ. Love is a specific way of relating to life that says, “No matter what happens, I am perfectly safe.”  You relate to life from a state of fearlessness because you know that on a fundamental level, nothing can truly harm you.  The point of life is joyful self-expression.  The part of you that believes that everything is already perfect and that you are here to embrace and enjoy the experience is the part that resonates with love energy.  If a love-polarized person could pick a magical power, s/he would choose something to increase his/her ability to serve the greater good, probably something like the ability to heal people. The peak emotion of polarized love energy is that of experiencing complete perfection and undeniable beauty in all things.  When you build a certain intensity of love energy, you will radiate gratitude, joy, and unconditional love.  This is how those who polarize with love energy connect with God or Source.  They dissolve all barriers between God and themselves, so that Self and God become one. Polarization The reason you find yourself living as a human being in this physical universe is so you can experiment freely with both polarities at relatively low intensities.  Eventually you must choose between them, meaning that you yourself must polarize. It makes no sense to attempt to balance fear and love energies because they cancel each other.  They are two fundamentally different ways of relating to existence.  Either you believe you’re fundamentally safe here (love polarization), or you don’t (fear polarization).  Those of us who find ourselves living as human beings are still working to address this fundamental question.  Once we make that choice and come to terms with it, we begin the next stage of our existence. Mixing love and fear energies is the result of not having made this choice yet.  We aren’t certain what to believe.  We don’t even know how to make the choice.  But ultimately that’s exactly what it is — a choice to be made of our own free will.  Although you likely have a pre-existing moral bias about this decision, in the grand scheme of things there is no right or wrong answer.  You can choose to polarize with fear, or you can choose to polarize with love.  The whole point of your human existence is to help you come to terms with that decision and then to actually make it. Polarization and levels of consciousness What’s the relationship between polarization and your level of consciousness?  While people often bias their descriptions of those levels to favor love orientation, it’s entirely possible to have a fear orientation at any level as well. Those who choose to polarize with love become lightworkers.  Those who choose to polarize with fear become darkworkers.  The more conscious and aware you become, the more easily you’ll observe the role of polarized energy, and the more pressure you’ll feel to polarize one way or the other.  Your level of consciousness doesn’t dictate your polarity, but it does help you come to terms the importance of this decision. At each level of consciousness, there are fear-based and love-based manifestations.  For example, there is a form of courage that’s rooted in fear, and there’s another form of courage that’s rooted in love.  The fear-based courage will entice you to conquer your fears, while the love-based courage will motivate you to transcend your fears.  As another example, at the level of peace, there’s a certain peace that comes from a sense of oneness, and there’s another kind of peace that comes from wielding a sufficient amount of power. Consider the Emperor character from Star Wars.  He was highly conscious and aware (not suffering from depression, apathy, grief, or shame), but he chose to polarize with the dark side of the force (fear orientation).  His consciousness combined with his polarization made him extremely powerful — this made it easy for him to turn Anakin to the dark side, since Anakin was less conscious and more conflicted.  Although Star Wars is fiction, the concepts of the light side and dark side are very similar to the polarities of love and fear, respectively.  If you want to master the force (i.e. energy flow), you must eventually polarize.  Those who never polarize are largely powerless and will simply serve as pawns of those who do. Making the polarity choice Erin has done a few intuitive readings for highly conscious people who are facing the polarization decision.  These people struggle with what is the biggest decision of their lives, and they’re often on the fence about it.  They’re usually leaning one way or the other, but they can still see both alternatives as possible.  They have the feeling that once they decide, there’s no going back. Having made this choice myself, I can say that it is not remotely easy.  When you first begin to understand the fundamental nature of this choice, it can take many years to come to terms with it. Ultimately the way I made the decision was to ask this question:  Which reality do I wish to experience?  I knew that once I made the choice, I’d begin attracting a reality that would reflect my choice.  I’d eventually be surrounded by the corresponding reflections that matched my energetic output.  When I looked at the choice through that lens, it was easier for me to decide (but still not easy).  I consciously decided to polarize with love, since that is the reality I wish to experience. Now you might be thinking, “Who on earth would want to polarize with fear energy?  Obviously love is the only proper choice.”  If that’s your thinking, then I would say you haven’t yet come to terms with your own shadow, and you aren’t ready to polarize.  Before you can make this decision consciously, you must understand the appeal of both polarities because that’s the whole point of human existence. Post-polarization After you decide to polarize you still have access to both energetic polarities, but one of them will become dominant over the other.  This change doesn’t happen instantly.  Most likely it’s a very gradual progression as you rely on the non-dominant polarity less and less and on the dominant one more and more. As you learn to use your dominant energy more frequently, your ability to manifest what you want increases.  It’s like you finally have your batteries plugged in the right way, so a strong current is able to flow.  The energetic waves that come back to you are magnified because your energetic output begins to form a resonance pattern.  It’s like pushing a child on a swing.  If you push at random intervals, the child won’t swing very high because some of your pushes will cancel each other.  But if you push with the right rhythm, the child will swing higher and higher.  In each case your total energy output is the same, but the results are very different.  When you stick with energy of a single polarity, you’re finally pushing with the right rhythm, manifesting greater results without working any harder.  If you used mixed energy and try to improve your results by working harder, you’ll only manifest more frustration. Over time it becomes harder to rely on your non-dominant polarity when you know it’s going to reduce your effectiveness in the long run.  An intensely selfish person who one day shows heart-felt mercy just ends up weakening himself, and an intensely giving person who acts from obsessive lust does the same.  If you use your non-dominant energy after you’ve polarized, it will absolutely, positively weaken you in some way. Consider Darth Vader’s story.  He’s tooling along, successfully building his empire with highly polarized energy.  Then at the end of Return of the Jedi, he suddenly switches polarities to save his son.  Boom!  He and his mentor both wind up dead, and his glorious empire goes down the tubes.  All of his power gone in an instant.  Now if he hadn’t made that stupid mistake — stupid from a fear-polarized perspective, that is – he’d have killed Luke and the Emperor too, making himself the most powerful person in the galaxy. Polarization comes with the responsibility to be consistent in your energy usage.  You can’t keep switching sides every day like people do before they polarize.  You can’t be forgiving one day and then plot revenge the next.  Sticking to a single polarity for a sufficient length of time will increase your capacity to create flow.  Once that flow reaches a certain level, you can’t reverse it mid-stream without serious energetic consequences.  You’re too likely to manifest an energetic explosion. The consequences of polarization At their fullest intensities, both polarities are extremely powerful.  But until you polarize, you don’t have access to the full range on either side.  On a scale of -10 to 10, you maybe get to operate in the -3 to +3 range before you polarize, and that’s a logarithmic scale.  After you polarize you gradually get access to the rest of the range… but only on one side or the other. Again Star Wars has a great analogy here.  The force is polarized energy.  It has a light side (love) and a dark side (fear).  If you want to master the force, you must pick a side.  The purer your polarity, the greater your ability to use the force.  The more polarized the character, the greater his/her ability to use the force.  Those individuals who hadn’t yet polarized, such as Han Solo, couldn’t use the force to do anything special, even after watching others use it.  Whether in Star Wars or the real world, undecided skeptics remain largely powerless, serving as pawns of the polarized. After you polarize and learn to use your dominant energy with greater intensity, there will be major consequences.  These include clearer thinking, stronger and more accurate intuition, increased psychic development, and a greater ability to manifest your desires.  Overall life will become much easier for you because you’ll have a greater capacity to use intentional energy.  It’s like being 10x stronger — everything you pick up feels lighter. That increased capacity comes with a price, however.  You’ll feel a greater responsibility to use it.  For a darkworker the responsibility is to increase your positional power, to become more dominant in your primary undertakings through competitive superiority.  For a lightworker the responsibility is to expand your capacity for unconditional love and creative expression.  As polarized energy courses through you, it seeks to increase its flow and to increase your capacity as an energetic medium. Polarized momentum Once you begin favoring a single energetic polarity, the feedback you receive will encourage you to keep heading in the same direction.  This is because the energetic feedback will eventually align itself with your dominant polarity.  In essence when you use fear energy, you’ll attract more reasons to use it.  The same goes for love energy. For example, if you devote your life to serving the highest good of all, you will receive an enormous return flow from the universe.  The more you give, the more you will receive.  This return flow, especially when received gratefully, will only encourage you to continue giving.  The joyful emotions you experience will do likewise. On the other hand, if you center your life around conquest, acquisition, and victory, the energetic feedback will tend to reinforce your competitive posture, since the universe will always be pulling the energy back out again.  You’ll manifest enemies and competitors that you must constantly defend against, and as you gain more positional power, they’ll become stronger and more resolute in their attempts to drain your energy.  The more powerful you become, the more powerful your opposition becomes, and the less you can afford to let your guard down.  The emotions you experience as a result of this energy flow will further reinforce your focus on strengthening your position and striving for greater dominance. A person who hasn’t yet polarized will manifest mixed and chaotic feedback.  Since their energy output is scrambled, it can’t build any momentum and will tend to remain scrambled.  Such people have very little power to manifest their desires, so they usually end up as pawns (servants, employees, followers, etc.) of those who are more polarized.  This isn’t a bad thing per se, since it provides important experience, but eventually it’s necessary to make the polarization choice consciously and deliberately. Final words of advice Don’t worry about polarizing your entire being right away.  Start with small decisions, and observe the consequences.  When you tackle a particular problem or goal or put out an intention, consciously decide which polarity you’re going to use, and stick with it.  For example, suppose you want to resolve a problem with a certain co-worker.  Will you attempt to dominate and gain power over the other person to get what you want, or will you unconditionally forgive and accept that person and attempt to do what’s best for him/her?  Either approach can work, but they have very different consequences, and those consequences will tend to reinforce the original polarity choice. Notice how these different energies feel when you apply them consciously.  And notice how much more effective it is to use a single polarity instead of haphazardly mixing them together.  This will help you gain experience with both polarities, making it easier for you to eventually decide which polarity to align yourself with.
    2329 Posted by UniqueThis
  • 27 Jul 2011
    A Roller Coaster of Emotions Throughout this trial my emotions have been all over the place. Sometimes I’ve felt incredibly blissful, and other times I’ve felt very stressed. When I feel stressed, it isn’t related to events coming up or anything like that. My calendar is still essentially blank. So I’m not feeling anxious about anything I “have to” do. If I wanted to I could just be a couch potato for days on end. I believe this stress has to do with the nature of this experiment. My whole conception of reality has been stretched to the point where I’m actually feeling a sense of loss or grieving with respect to my old life. I’m too far down the proverbial rabbit hole to be able to turn back, so part of me knows this is a permanent shift of some sort. That isn’t easy to accept, and I’m experiencing different waves of emotion as I try to understand the consequences. “Loss” may be the wrong word. I’m not teary eyed about it. But it’s such a huge change that it sometimes feels like I’m floating through space with no solid ground beneath me. I don’t have enough familiarity with this way of living to know what’s coming up, so I really can’t predict the long-term consequences. Life has become much less predictable, and the rate of change is extremely rapid. The changes I’ve experienced as a result of this trial have been incredibly positive, even in the objective sense, but positive change can still be stressful. Events like moving to a nicer home, getting married, or winning the lottery can add a lot of stress to your life. So that’s what it feels like for me. I love the positive changes, but collectively I’m feeling a lot of stress about it. Fortunately this stress seems to be gradually decreasing over time as I get used to living this way. In many ways I feel like a baby, having to relearn so many things from the ground up. It feels like I’ve torn apart my life, and I’m rebuilding it from fairly basic building blocks. That takes time. On the other hand, sometimes I’ve been feeling totally blissful, happy, and excited too. I believe I can handle the stress. I just need to pace myself and take steps to keep the stress manageable. I’m optimistic that the stress feelings will continue to diminish with time. I’m constantly out of my comfort zone, but I expect that given enough time, I’ll eventually become more comfortable with this way of perceiving reality. Comfort and Grounding For most of this trial, I haven’t bothered to stick to much of a routine. If this is a dream world, then what’s the point? Well, I’m starting to realize there is a point to having a routine. Against a backdrop of uncertainty, some daily structure can have a soothing effect. It reduces stress and provides a sense of security and stability. Feeling like you’re floating through a cosmic wonderland might be exciting for a while, but doing that for weeks at a time can be very unsettling. Simple things like going for a walk, preparing and eating meals, and even breathing help me feel more grounded. I may know it’s not real, and in a dream world, much of what I do may not even be necessary, but I’m finding good reasons to do those things anyway. Nighttime dreams are usually very brief, lasting only a matter of minutes. But when you have a dream that lasts for weeks, it really does feel nice to populate the dream world with some persistent structures in time and space, if only for emotional reasons. During this experiment I’m feeling very appreciative of my home, long-term relationships, and other things that give me a sense of stability. Even eating an apple helps me feel grounded because it’s familiar. I’m reminded of the scene from the first Matrix movie where Cypher is enjoying a steak dinner with Smith. He says he knows the stuff in the Matrix isn’t real, but he doesn’t care. I can relate to feeling much the same way. I know it’s all dream stuff, but for now I still need to connect with what’s familiar for a sense of stability and grounding. Synchronicities On the flip side, the more I embrace the belief that life is a dream, the more the dream world reveals itself as such. For starters, the number of synchronicities I’m experiencing is way off the scale, and it’s not just with me. All my inboxes have been flooding with similar messages from others reporting a major increase in synchronicities lately. It feels as if the whole dream world is shifting. I’d say that on average, I’m seeing about 3-5 striking synchronicities every day now. They’ve been coming in nonstop since this experiment started. Have you seen an increase in syncs in your life this month? I wonder if it’s related to this experiment somehow. For example, about a week ago, I had the strange inspiration to go rent the movie Alice in Wonderland (the recent version with Johnny Depp). An hour or two before I left my house, someone had just emailed me a quote from the Princess Bride, which is my favorite movie of all time. As I walked into the video store, I saw the Princess Bride playing on a TV there. On my way home, I was listening to “When Tomorrow Comes” by Eurythmics, the first line of which is: Underneath your dreamlit eyes, shades of sleep have driven you away. The song before that one was “Sweet Dreams.” This is on their greatest hits album. About a block from my house, I see a real rabbit sitting in the middle of the street. He stares at me as I drive within a few feet of him. Funny that I would see him while driving home with Alice. I watch Alice while having dinner, and the movie is overflowing with subjective reality references like, “It’s just a dream” and “All I have to do is wake up” and “I make the path.” Alice even refers to the Mad Hatter as a figment. At the end of the movie, she leaves her old life behind and gets on a boat. In an objective sense, the movie is only so-so, but it’s a lot more interesting when viewed through a subjective lens. Reality is practically beating me over the head with validation that yes, this is a dream world. At times I feel that life has been dropping me hints about this, but it took me a long time to see the big picture. The whole 11:11 phenomenon was one of many clues — it makes perfect sense that such events would occur in a dream world. Dream People One funny aspect of this experiment is that since I’m doing it publicly, most of the people in my life know about it (or so it seems). So when people email me or call me, they often address me as a character in their dream world or as a projection of mine. Same goes for phone calls. Objectively I could say they’re just playing along. But subjectively it’s as if they’re finally acknowledging the truth. I’ve been spending a LOT of time on communication lately. It’s sometimes a challenge to maintain the frame of a dream during an immersive conversation, but I’m gradually getting used to it. I’ve noticed that conversations take on a whole different flavor when I view them through the dream lens and when I address the other person as a dream character. So far no one that I communicate with regularly has objected to being treated like a dream character. Actually it’s just the opposite. Most people seem intrigued and enjoy playing along, and we end up having some pretty deep conversations as a result. Even people that I thought were very left-brained are revealing different aspects of their personalities that I seldom see. They typically become much more playful, open, and light-hearted. One day when I was spending time with my dream daughter Emily, I asked her to consider that life might actually be a dream. Then I began pointing things out to her that seemed dream-like. I showed her rooms in my house that have no furniture in them, asking her what kind of real house would have empty rooms like that. It must be a dream house. Then it started pouring rain, and I took her outside and showed her that it was raining, but the sky was blue, and it was bright and sunny out. I asked her if that seemed at all like a dream. She seemed a bit suspicious while we pranced around in the rain. Was it real rain or dream rain? On a different day, I took Emily out to dinner. As we were driving back, stopped at a crosswalk, a pedestrian crossed in front of us with an umbrella. I asked Emily why someone would be using an umbrella when it’s not even raining. Must be a dream! Interacting with dream people is a lot of fun. In fact, I think I’ve been getting over-addicted to socializing during this time because the interactions are just so amazing. On many days I’ve spent hours on the phone. Lucid Dreaming Last week I had a lucid dream during a 20-minute nap. Within the dream world, I was in my own kitchen, and I knew that my body was asleep on the couch and that I was definitely dreaming. I decided to try doing telekinesis in the dream world. I couldn’t make it work at all. At best I was able to possibly make some leaves on a tree rustle a little, but it could just as easily have been explained by a dream breeze. It didn’t really feel like I was controlling it. In fact, I didn’t seem to wield any special abilities in the dream world at all. The whole experience could just as easily have happened in this reality. Now this is a strange development indeed. Normally when I have a lucid dream, I’m able to do all kinds of cool things like flying. But not this time. By believing that I’m dreaming while awake, is it possible that I somehow infected the next deeper level of dreaming with my limiting beliefs about this world? So far this was the only lucid dream I’ve had during this experiment. I wonder what will happen as I have more. Dream Food Some dream characters asked if there was a risk of eating non-vegan food during this experiment. I don’t see that as a serious possibility since I don’t regard non-vegan items as food. Even in my nighttime dreams, I still eat vegan, and if I ever dream that I eat something non-vegan by mistake, I actually get grossed out within the dream. I’ve been vegan since 1997, so I’ve been eating this way for most of my adult life (or at least I dreamt it that way). Eating non-vegan dream food would be like eating dream sawdust or dream bugs. I simply have no appetite for such things, regardless of the true nature of reality. That said, I’ve done a lot of experimenting with vegan dream food. Initially I figured I should be able to eat whatever the heck I wanted. How could it affect me if it’s just dream food? Would the awareness that I’m dreaming be enough to change how the food affected me? So I consumed lots of complex foods like pasta, pizza, soy lattes, and even some wine. I stopped exercising completely too. Haven’t been to the gym in weeks. About the only exercise I’ve done was going for some walks. I also didn’t pay as much attention to hygiene. What does it matter in a dream world? Sometimes I wouldn’t shave for more than a week. And guess what happened. I gained a few pounds. I started feeling sluggish. I didn’t get sick, but I definitely didn’t feel as good in my dream body. After a few weeks of that, I began to feel somewhat disgusted with myself. I began having strong cravings for healthier, lighter foods like fresh fruit. I knew I’d feel much better on those foods, even if they weren’t real. Then I realized that I could be seeing these results because I expected them. My subconscious was still filled with beliefs and memories about how certain foods would affect me, and the effects I experienced were all in line with those expectations. So I had the thought that if I wanted to have a healthier dream body, I should consume foods that I believed were the healthiest and avoid those that I believed were unhealthy. So several days ago, I shifted to doing that. I went to a local farmer’s market. I bought the foods I considered the healthiest stuff I could put in my body — celery, cucumber, dark leafy greens, fresh berries, grapes, etc. I hit a sync there too: As I walked up to the farmer’s market, a friend from Toastmasters was just walking out, so we hugged hello right at the entrance. I began eating foods I believed would make me feel good without negative side effects. And lo and behold, I started feeling much better within a couple days, and the excess weight began to drop off. Presently I’m really craving raw foods, and I know I feel best when I eat mostly fresh produce, so I’m doing 95-100% raw for now. I’m eating mostly fresh fruit, fresh veggies, and greens in various combos. The only cooked item I ate was a stir fry of fresh zucchini, yellow squash, and bell peppers. Now I’m starting to feel a stronger urge to exercise since I know it will make my dream body feel even better. What kinds of dream exercise might I do to put my dream body into optimal condition? These may seem like subtle distinctions as compared to the objective perspective, perhaps almost circular in nature, but for whatever reason, everything is different on the subjective side. Even things that were working for me objectively, I have to rebuild them on the subjective side with a new mindset. Eating based on my beliefs doesn’t feel quite the same as eating based on objective nutritional science. The same goes with exercising. Instead of having to objectively figure out an optimal diet by learning the science behind different foods and doing lots of trial and error, I can now simply eat whatever I presently believe is the healthiest and avoid what I believe to be unhealthy. This introduces a new level of self-honesty, since it’s harder to delude myself about my own beliefs. For example, on the objective side I may drink some coffee. The chemistry of coffee is so complex that apparently many scientists still don’t know what to make of it. So it’s easy to justify drinking it. It can mentally place it into the gray area of health by focusing on the potential benefits. Or I can simply enjoy the indulgence. But on the subjective side, it’s a lot harder to do this. When I ask myself how I honestly believe coffee will affect me, I can’t pretend it’s a health food. I have too much history with it and too many memories of how addictive it is for me and how it messes with my thinking. So for the moment, I must deal with my subconscious expectation that coffee will negatively impact my health. Subjective Rebuilding It takes a while to rebuild my life from the subjective side. I feel very fortunate that I have the time to do so because it looks like it’s going to take many more weeks. I’ve made major progress in the area of relationships, and this week I seem to be focusing on health a lot. But I have yet to dive into the career and financial aspects of my life. I sense that’s coming up though, perhaps within the next few weeks. It’s hard to say because I’m just going with the flow of inspiration. Apparently this flow is taking me through a process of recoding my whole life part by part. As I mentioned earlier, this has been somewhat stressful due to all the changes, but it’s also pretty exciting to see it unfold. I’m certainly pleased with the results thus far. Even in areas where my life may look relatively unchanged, my inner experience has shifted massively. I may be eating similar foods once again, but it feels so different to buy, prepare, and eat foods with a dream world perspective. I know that I have so much more to explore from this perspective. Right now I mainly want to get the basics right. I don’t want to attempt anything too fancy. I want to see what it’s like to get my overall life working subjectively and to maintain that for a while. Right now I feel like I’m only 30% of the way through this initial process of subjectively refactoring my life. I can see that there’s still a lot more to go. The Power of Belief As I move forward with my subjective life, I have a few options when it comes to dealing with beliefs. The first option is that I can work within the framework of my existing beliefs. This suggests that if I do what I subconsciously believe will work, I can expect a positive outcome. So I have to get clearer about my existing beliefs and stay true to them. The second option is to condition new beliefs to replace the old ones, and see how those new beliefs affect me. There are a number of different methods for this, but it’s tricky work because beliefs interact with each other. It can also be pretty time consuming because we have a lot of subconscious beliefs. A third option is to reduce my reliance on beliefs altogether. I can realize that they’re simply experiential filters, and I don’t necessarily need them. There are methods to do this as well, such as Ho’oponopono. Right now I’m mainly shifting into the first option. I feel intuitively drawn to explore that space first. That’s the space I understand best, and the results I can expect there seem the most stable, grounded, and predictable. That should give me a stable base for exploring other options. Then I suspect I’ll explore the third option more intently, working to reduce my conditioning and seeing what effect it has. I want to build up more experience living subjectively before I attempt anything like that in earnest though. What I’ve already done so far is enough of a shift to process. I wouldn’t want to add more change to my life just yet. I’m barely able to handle the current pacing. Beliefs essentially act as experiential filters. They constrain the dream world. I don’t feel ready to release too many of those constraints just yet, but I suspect that with enough experience living this way, I’ll eventually feel ready to explore that part of dream life. Recoding the Dream Even though I don’t want to make major changes in this area, I can’t resist the temptation to play around with some dream reprogramming work. It’s too much fun to avoid it altogether. For starters, I’ve been recoding the dream characters in my life to experience greater financial abundance. Secondly, I’ve been working to inject more peace and harmony into the dream world, such as by imagining the Wars in Iraq and Afghanistan as ended. I started doing this a couple weeks ago. I’m curious to see if it has any noticeable effect. As for what technique to use, in a dream world the specific technique doesn’t matter. What matters is that you believe and expect it will work. A method is meaningless unless you create the belief in it, and that belief would be pretty hard to manufacture on the objective side. On the subjective side, however, such a belief arises as a natural consequence of being in a dream world. I believe I have the ability to make changes in the dream world through the application of thought and intention. I’ve seen this in the past with my own life, and I’ve seen how it’s possible to reprogram other dream characters at times. One specific method I use is to “remember” a dream character differently and to stop validating a less desirable reality for them. So if they’re currently broke, I refuse to feed any more energy to their brokeness. In my mind’s eye, I remember them as already abundant. And then when I interact with them, I affirm them as enjoying financial abundance right now. If they disagree with me initially (some are ornery), I point out that they must be crazy or blind not to see all the money that’s flowing through their life. Or I imagine them as more flexible and more grateful. Objectively speaking you could say this is a form of hypnosis. However, I find that it works even if I don’t tell the dream characters what I’m doing on their behalf. Now maybe you think this is crazy (or I’m just imagining that a dream character might react in that way), but it seems to be working — and in a manner that’s so over the top, I’d have to be blind not to notice that something has shifted. Since I started doing this, and even before I told anyone what I was doing, various dream characters started reporting windfalls of extra money coming to them, often in unexpected ways. That’s been really cool to see. If you haven’t seen this happening in your own life yet this month, you’re about to see it soon. When the money shows up, be sure to receive it with gratitude; say yes to it. So if you don’t mind, I’m going to remember you as a financially abundant dream character and treat you as such. I’m no longer interested in feeding any energy to your financial struggles. Financial scarcity is so last dimension. I’d rather enjoy a dream world where every dream character can enjoy plenty of abundance. The subjective mindset takes responsibility to a whole new level. I have to feel a sense of responsibility for everyone in my dream world. I do my best to focus on affirming the positive for them. However, I haven’t practiced this enough to make it an ingrained habit yet, so I still flop into the habit of affirming what’s already present at times. I’ll get better with time. Does this mean I see myself as some kind of god? No, it just means I’m a dream character with some degree of programming skill. I know how to implant suggestions into the dreamer’s subconscious, and then they manifest in the dream world. I can’t say who the dreamer is, and I don’t always know what the effect will be or if the new commands will be accepted. But I can see that there are effects being created, and they can be pretty intense and dramatic at times. I’m reminded of these lines from the Depeche Mode song “Lie to Me”: Experiences have a lasting impression But words once spoken Don’t mean a lot now … So lie to me But do it with sincerity Make me listen Just for a minute Make me think There’s some truth in it In other words, you don’t have to be loyal to a present reality you don’t want. You can creatively “lie” your way into a new reality. I wouldn’t call this a fake it till you make it approach. Faking it implies you don’t believe it. In this case, you have to know that you have the power to implant commands into the dreamer’s subconscious and that they’re going to manifest in the dream world at some point. When you believe you can do this, the process of implanting a command is as simple as declaring it. If you don’t believe you can do this, you’re right. If you believe you can do it, you’re also right. A Special Challenge for Our Forum Community Since this experiment began, our forum community has exploded with activity. This is the most active month we’ve ever seen, and we’re currently averaging more than 1,000 new posts per day. I think it would be really cool if in the forums, for at least the rest of the month, we could all focus our energy on creating what we desire. Let’s collectively stop feeding energy to what we don’t want. Let’s stop validating any negativity we see in others. No more pity parties or group griping sessions about what isn’t working. That has never worked. Let us instead affirm the potential we see in each other instead of the lack thereof. Even if we must creatively lie to each other, I’d love to see what kind of effect that would have. I think it warrants at least a couple weeks of experimentation. For those who want better relationships, treat them as if they’re already attracting the relationship of their dreams. For those who want more abundance, interact with them as if they’re already rich; even ask them for financial advice. For those who want a new career, affirm that they’re already doing what they love and that they’re inspiring others as well. Treat everyone as the best version of themselves that you can imagine. We only need a certain number of active members to hold the energy of this experiment. Once critical mass is achieved, the experiment will become infectious. It might even spread to other forums as well. If you don’t like the results, you can always go back to complaining about what isn’t working in September. What do you think would happen if we did this as a group? Let’s find out.
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  • 12 Jul 2011
    Since I receive many questions about this topic, I thought it would be fun to share a candid insider’s look at the reality of being an A-list blogger.  These are my personal observations, so I’m not saying they’re true of other high-traffic bloggers, but it wouldn’t surprise me if some of these patterns held up.  While I normally prefer not to write about blogging as a topic unto itself — it’s my medium, not my message — I think you’ll find plenty of personal growth lessons here as well.  Many of these “confessions” have to do with finding ways to maintain balance in a lifestyle that can so easily become unbalanced. If you’re new to this site, just be aware that this blog is run by an individual (not a team of bloggers), that I focus on writing original content (not links or commentary about other blogs’ content), and that the topic is “Personal development for smart people.” In writing an article like this, it’s a challenge not to come across as either too arrogant or awkwardly modest.  My goal is simply to share what is true for me in the hopes you’ll derive some value from it, painting a realistic picture as opposed to skewing it for greater social validation. Tons of traffic To my knowledge there’s no cast-in-stone definition of an A-list blogger, but the key defining element would certainly be traffic, i.e. the size of the blog’s readership.  It’s really just a popularity contest.  This blog gets about 2 million monthly visitors and has an Alexa rank of about 4,000, which by any reasonable definition would put it into the A-list category.  As far as I can tell, StevePavlina.com is currently the most popular personal development web site in the world as well.  The main reason for that is its 600+ in-depth articles on a variety of growth-related topics — all of them freely available. Now imagine being an individual who enjoys writing and has some knowledge to share, and within a fairly short period of time — just a couple years — you’ve got your very own global audience of millions of people.  That’s quite a soapbox, almost like having your own TV show. While building traffic can be a challenge, maintaining traffic is much easier.  You basically just have to keep doing what you’ve been doing that got you there in the first place.  Soon it hits you that unless you do something really lame to screw it up (*cough* *Wil Wheaton* *cough*), you’re going to have this audience for a very, very long time, possibly for the rest of your life if you so desire.  If anything your audience will continue to grow, even if it just tracks the growth rate of blogging in general or the Internet itself. While many bloggers are hungry for more traffic, I don’t think most are prepared for what would happen if they actually succeeded.  A-list blogging has some major oddities, the consequences of having direct access to a large readership with no middlemen. Feedback Perhaps the greatest social consequence of A-list blogging is that you get tons of feedback, whether you solicit it or not.  Every day I receive feedback through email, phone calls, and posts on other blogs, even if I haven’t posted anything new for several days.  I also get at least a few cards and letters in the mail every week. In a typical day, about 10-20 other blogs write something about me or one of my articles.  If I have a hit post, that number can surge to more than 50 in a day.  Knowing that somebody somewhere is writing something about you or your ideas every single day takes some getting used to. When I first started blogging, I loved the feedback.  The more, the better.  Then it got to be so much I grew to hate it.  Then I started loving it again.  Then I hated it again.  At various times I even modified my contact form to be more or less inviting, depending on how much feedback I wanted to get.  I learned that tweaking the contact form text in different ways could affect feedback volume by at least a factor of 5. I cycled a few more times through the love-hate extremes before I was able to put high-volume feedback into a more healthy perspective.  One problem is that most feedback, although it may be new to the sender, isn’t new to me — I’ve seen so much of it that it almost always falls into one of a couple dozen patterns.  I eventually noticed that even when people seem to be writing about me, they’re really writing about themselves.  Even when something is addressed to me in the guise of genuine feedback, it’s hardly ever about me, and it’s seldom actionable.  In virtually all cases, feedback is the other person’s unique response to the stimulus I provided, not an evaluation of the stimulus itself.  Consequently, most feedback isn’t really that helpful to me in terms of improving what I do.  I’ll readily acknowledge that some great ideas came from reader feedback, but on balance I’m not sure the effort required to find those gems has been worth it. Whether the feedback I get is positive or negative, I’ve learned to see it not as something addressed to me but rather as part of the other person’s story.  In that light I end up feeling grateful and appreciative for feedback because it shows me what kinds of issues people are struggling with, and that does help me generate ideas for future articles.  On average I spend about 2-5 seconds reading each piece of feedback email, regardless of the length.  I don’t want to disrespect the time the sender spent crafting it, but within a few seconds I can identify the pattern of the email.  In reviewing feedback email, I generally watch for long-term trends and aim to assess the big picture. In late 2005 I wrote a piece about two email templates visitors could use to send me feedback, one positive and one critical.  Although the piece was meant to be humorous, much of the feedback I receive still fits the general pattern of those templates. If I took every piece of feedback personally instead of focusing on overall trends, it would drive me in circles.  For many articles I write, at least one person will tell me it’s the best article I’ve ever written, while someone else will slam it as junk.  They’re both right because they’re writing about their reactions, not the article itself. In truth virtually all the feedback I get falls into a relatively small number of common patterns.  I even have mental labels for them, including the convert (high praise from a new reader), the whiner (my life sucks, woe is me), the disgruntled teen (aka traffic from Digg), the life story (emails that are longer than my articles), the cross-examiner (let me nitpick each of your ideas one sentence at a time), and so on.  To each individual it seems unique, and although the details change, the underlying themes are universal and cross-cultural. Figuring out how to process high-volume feedback isn’t easy.  While it might sound cold to treat feedback as some sort of collective entity rather than as individual pieces of communication, I find the alternatives much worse.  I believe the best role of feedback is to serve as a vehicle for staying connected with my audience and to look for ways to improve while at the same time not getting phased by the emotional drama it may contain. Requests Many people regard my site as a potential media outlet and myself as a good person to network with, so I receive a lot of PR-related requests.  Authors and publishers send me new personal development books, audio programs, and DVDs in the mail every week in the hopes they may get a mention or a review on my site.  Some have even succeeded, although that’s rare because I’m extremely picky about what I’ll recommend.  I also receive unsolicited press releases, invitations to various events, interview requests, and lunch invites.  And then there are the frequent link swap and site review requests.  On the other hand, I also get a lot of non-PR items, such as requests for personal advice. After a few rounds of cycling through the basic love-hate patterns, I found the best approach was to set standards for the kinds of requests I’ll accept and just decline anything that doesn’t meet those standards.  This saves me time and keeps me focused while still allowing me to accept the items that really deserve a yes.  There are far too many requests to say yes to all of them. For example, when I get a same-day request to do a 5-10 minute radio interview, I know it’s likely to be a waste of time.  The producer is just looking to fill a gap with anyone they can find at the last minute, the DJ won’t be well prepared, and the interview will be very shallow.  On the other hand, when an interview is scheduled well in advance with a qualified host and a decent time allotment, that will usually be a more worthwhile endeavor.  Yanik Silver recently did an hour-long interview with me about Internet marketing, and I think it came out very well. Here are a few things I’ve found helpful to consider when evaluating requests: My investment – If I say yes, how much time/money/effort will this require?  Is this a one-shot time investment, or will it create an ongoing commitment?  Is this investment congruent with my goals, or will it take me off course? Impact - What’s the likely impact of this request?  Is this only going to benefit one person in a small way, or could it have a positive impact on thousands?  I favor the more impactful, contributing requests.  A college student who wants to interview me for a school paper gets an automatic no (too little leverage), while a high-traffic blog asking for that same interview will often get a yes.  I want to see my efforts help as many people as possible. Time to evaluate – How long will it take me to intelligently evaluate this request?  Is the request so complicated that it would take me longer to evaluate it than I think it’s worth?  If I have to spend 30 minutes reading a PDF just to figure out what’s being asked of me, it’s going to be an automatic no unless the other factors suggest it could be extremely worthwhile. Clarity – Is the request clear, specific, and actionable?  “We both work in the same field, so we should do something together” gets an automatic decline.  I’ve learned from experience that people who make very general, open-ended requests just aren’t clear enough about their own goals, and they’ll only run me in circles if I get involved with them. Reasonableness - Is the request fair and reasonable?  Requesting a link swap for a site that gets little or no traffic is obviously not a fair exchange, unless you think it’s fair to trade a marshmallow for a Porsche. Person making the request – Does this person seem like someone I’d want to work with?  Is this just a cold call, or has s/he been referred by someone I trust? Personal or generic – Is this a personal request addressed to me specifically, or is it a generic request that’s probably being made of others?  I decline generic requests, such as requests to participate in an upcoming book or product launch.  I don’t want to run a generic blog. Opportunity cost – How does this request stack up against the other items on my plate?  What am I willing to delete or delay to get this done? Interest – Does this request actually interest me?  Is it something I’d enjoy doing?  Will it challenge me in new ways? The sheer volume of requests necessitates adopting such criteria.  For a blogger just starting out, you won’t need to be so picky, but it really helps to have standards when you need to make quick yes/no decisions every day.  I think these rules could be applied by anyone who has to process a high volume of requests. When responding to requests, I basically choose one of four options: 1. Yes – the rarest of replies from me.  But it does happen if a request meets my standards. 2. No – My default response is to reply with a polite but standard decline message.  Here’s the one I currently use: I appreciate the offer, but I must decline.  I’m committed to various projects for the next several months, and I don’t have the capacity to give this idea the consideration it deserves. When I decline I usually don’t tell people why except in a very generic way.  In my experience that too often encourages people to go into pushy salesperson mode and begin trying to address my objections, which just wastes my time and theirs.  I get enough requests that I know the angles they’re going to use anyway. 3. No response – If I suspect a decline message will incite the other person to go all kittywampus on me, I’ll send no response at all.  I prefer to give people a quick no, but if the person seems very pushy and unlikely to take no for an answer, they’ll have to talk to the hand.  Also when I’m really busy, I usually default to no response to speed things along, especially if the requests are very generic. 4. Send more info – If I think a request may have merit, but I don’t have enough info to say yes, I’ll request further details.  For example, if it’s a request for a speaking engagement, at the very least I need to know the date and location. When making requests of busy people, it’s important to be respectful of their time.  This means making clear, concise, reasonable requests that represent genuine opportunities.  Busy people make rapid triage decisions every day, and requests that disrespect their time are likely to be rejected within seconds. Pressure to post One artifact of having lots of readers is that there’s this ongoing pressure to post.  Your guaranteed audience is always there, ready to digest the next article you put online.  That’s both a privilege and a responsibility.  If you aren’t prepared for this situation, it can be stressful, making you feel like you always have to be working on your next blog entry.  Even when you’re offline, you’re blogging in your head.  But if you do prepare for it, this can become a gentle, positive pressure — eustress instead of distress. Fortunately I gave this a lot of thought before I started my blog.  This web site wasn’t my first online business, so I knew from experience that success could be just as challenging as failure.  I outgrew my computer games business, and I wanted to avoid falling into that same trap again.  Perhaps the most important decision I made was to pick a topic I really, really love:  personal development.  But that wasn’t enough by itself.  I loved computer games and got bored with that after a decade.  Personal development is specific enough so as to give my work a solid focus, but it’s also broad enough that I needn’t succumb to boredom.  In truth I can write about anything that interests me as long as I explore it from the perspective of personal growth.  My topic gives my writing a solid focus, but I don’t consider myself a niche blogger. This flexibility has been crucial to my success as a blogger.  If I start feeling burned out with a certain subtopic like health or spirituality, I can shift to writing about other interests like productivity or time management.  While some readers who become attached to my writing about certain subtopics may complain when I switch gears, at the same time other readers are delighted with the new direction.  The rule that you can’t please everyone certainly applies. One of the key benefits of writing about diverse topics is that my readers are exposed to ideas and concepts they wouldn’t normally seek out on their own.  They find the site looking for a specific topic and get drawn into reading about many other topics, which expands their awareness and broadens their horizons. In an average week, I probably spend about 10-15 hours writing articles.  Maintaining this blog doesn’t take a lot of work.  If I wanted to, I could probably get it down to about 5 hours a week or less.  I happen to enjoy writing, but knowing that I don’t have to write and that I can take time off whenever I want is important to me.  I sometimes write a batch of blog entries in advance and then future-post them throughout the week, so I can spend the rest of the week doing other things.  I rarely do any blog-related work on weekends. For me the pressure to post is no big deal.  I never have to force myself to sit down and write.  I’m fortunate to find myself in a situation where my desire to write is greater than what is required to keep my blog thriving. I gave serious thought to my exit strategy before I started blogging, and I realized I didn’t really need one in the traditional entrepreneurial sense because I designed this business to be able to grow with me.  For bloggers who pick very specific niche topics though, I think it’s important to have an exit strategy if you someday see yourself getting burned out on the topic you’ve chosen.  Burning out is very common within the first two years. The business of blogging As someone who hasn’t had a job since 1992, I’ve never been interested in a traditional career path.  I love the business model of blogging because it’s so flexible.  I can work as little or as much as I want, when I want, and where I want.  There are zillions of ways to monetize a high-traffic web site, and technology handles all the tedious parts. Business success with blogging is mainly a function of traffic.  No traffic, no income.  Lots of traffic, plenty of income.  Sure there are other variables, but traffic is the most important single factor.  If you can build a successful blog, it’s not that difficult to turn it into a successful business. Consider my current business model.  I have no products, no inventory, no customers, no sales, no employees, and no office outside my home.  I haven’t spent a dime on marketing since I launched this site in October 2004.  But I earn about $40K per month, mostly from joint-venture promotions, advertising, affiliate programs, and donations.  Two years ago this site was bringing in about $150/month, and one year ago it was earning around $6K/month, so that’s a pretty nice rate of growth.  The income does fluctuate from month to month, but the positive cashflow is high enough that the fluctuations don’t matter.  I maintain a substantial cash reserve too, so I could survive a very long time even if all my income suddenly shut off.  This is much less risky than having a job. The expense of running this blog is negligible.  I pay around $220/month for a dedicated server with 1.5 TB (1500 GB) of available bandwidth, and that’s my main expense.  Sure I bought other things like podcasting equipment, but that certainly isn’t essential. A high-traffic blog is a wonderful vehicle for wealth building.  First, it’s an asset you own.  I’ve seen various evaluations that StevePavlina.com is worth anywhere from $1.6 million to over $5 million.  That nice to see, but it’s odd to have so much wealth tied up in an asset I don’t plan to sell, so to me the cashflow is what matters from a financial standpoint.  I doubt too many banks would feel comfortable lending money against my web site as collateral. A year ago I wrote an extensive article called How to Make Money From Your Blog, which has since become one of the most widely referenced articles of its kind.  The content is slightly dated, since most of my income now comes from commissions on joint-venture deals, not advertising, but overall the advice in that article is still valid.  Dozens of bloggers credit that article for getting them started blogging for income, and some are generating results much faster than I did.  While some people tell me it’s foolish to give away such information, especially for free, I’m more interested in helping others succeed than in worrying about competition.  To me the notion of turf protection is rooted in scarcity thinking.  More competition is only going to push me to keep growing, which is what I want anyway. If there’s one insider’s secret I can offer to how to become an A-list blogger, this is it:  Treat your blog as your primary outlet for contribution to the world.  Make it your legacy.  Write to pass on knowledge and ideas that you think will really benefit people.  Focus first and foremost on providing value.  If you can do that, the rest is relatively easy.  Value builds referrals.  Referrals build traffic.  Traffic generates income.  Income increases your ability to contribute, which in turn helps you provide even more value.  The keys to unlocking this positive spiral are contribution, contribution, contribution. Responsibility I’m not sure if other bloggers feel the same as I do about this, but I feel a strong sense of responsibility to my readers.  When writing a new article, I sometimes imagine standing on a stage in front of an audience of millions of people from all over the world.  What shall I say to them?  That simple visualization helps me focus on providing value instead of just writing for the sake of writing.  I’ve summarily deleted a number of articles in progress when I realized they weren’t worthy of my readers. At the same time, I think it’s important not to let that responsibility go to my head.  I prefer to communicate on a personal level instead of going into soapbox mode.  Even though I’m writing for a large group of people, to each individual reader it’s still a form of one-on-one communication.  It’s ironic that I endeavor to write on an individual level, while I process feedback on a more collective level. Lifestyle In the recent book The 4-Hour Workweek (Yes, I received a free promo copy in the mail), author Tim Ferriss writes about the importance of having a decent income as well as the time to enjoy it.  What good will it do you to earn lots of money if you have to perpetually put in 40+ hours a week to get it?  Would you rather earn $5,000/month working 5 hours/week or $10,000/month working 50 hours/week?  The second option may give you more cash, but the first option gives you a lot more time to enjoy it.  Tim debunks the idea of working long hours to save up for a retirement that may never come.  He proposes taking mini-retirements throughout life in order to strike a balance between work and play. I agree that people spend way too much time spinning their wheels at work.  It doesn’t matter how much time you spend at the office — the results are what matters.  With a shift in thinking, it’s entirely possible to generate greater results in much less time.  You just have to be really clear about what you’re trying to accomplish.  I like that blogging allows me to create value once (by writing an article), and computers deliver that value again and again for virtually no cost.  Whenever I feel the urge, I can write something that will be read by thousands of people within 24 hours.  That’s massive leverage. The key to leverage is to generate income as a function of the value you provide, not the number of hours you work. I learned of another interesting work model from a Jay Abraham seminar recording I heard many years ago.  Jay reported that some of the most financially successful people used a pattern of alternating weeks between their work and personal life.  So they’ll work hard one week, and the next week they won’t even go into the office at all.  During their off weeks, they’ll travel or play golf or spend time with their families.  Some do one week on, two weeks off.  And others can manage one week on, three weeks off.  I can see this working well for certain business models.  For example, if I wrote like mad for a week, I could create a month’s worth of articles and then future-post them.  I could spend the next few weeks traveling or doing other things, and the blog would automatically post new content during my absence according to the schedule I provided.  Unfortunately I’m not into golf, although I do enjoy disc golf. Blogging affords very flexible work patterns, and I really like that it can grow along with me.  When I want to write a lot, it’s nice to have a guaranteed audience that’s bigger than most best-selling authors will ever see.  When I want to spend more time on personal pursuits, I can do so guilt-free, knowing that there are 600+ articles in the archives for people to explore — enough to fill several books.  And the discussion forums are available 24/7 for anyone in need of extra advice or encouragement.  So even when I’m not working, that value is still being provided. There’s still a potential dark side to this lifestyle, however.  I’ve seen many bloggers fall into the trap of turning their blogs into their lives.  They sit at their computers all day, answering email, reading RSS feeds, and cranking out posts.  That’s not a lifestyle I’d choose to emulate.  I had my RSS subscriptions down to just 5 feeds total, and I recently eliminated those as well, so I don’t subscribe to any other feeds at all, nor do I read or watch the news or visit any daily web sites.  I prefer to use real life, not cyberspace, as my primary source of inspiration.  I also try to limit my email to about 15 minutes a day, 30 minutes max.  On weekends I like to get away from the computer and go out with my family.  When I want more input, I read books or talk to people face to face.  Blogging can too easily devolve into a pattern of Internet addiction, and I want to steer clear of that. Because of my blog’s topic, my work and personal life have fuzzy divisions.  Almost any of my personal pursuits, such as Toastmasters or martial arts, can become topics for future articles.  So I don’t feel the need to separate work life and personal life as much as other bloggers might.  Most of my work involves simply doing what I naturally enjoy. Cyberfame Popular bloggers achieve a strange kind of fame.  On the one hand, I have this massive worldwide readership, my work has been translated into a dozen different languages, and people I’ve never met are writing and talking about me every day.  On the other hand, if I’m just walking down the street, nobody will even recognize me. There’s a strange dichotomy between my online blogging persona and my personal life.  When I first started out, they remained fairly separate.  Even as I was building a large online readership, to my local friends I was just plain Steve.  If people asked me what I did for a living, I’d just tell them I ran an Internet business.  I didn’t want to have to define blogging to everyone I met. Over time, however, my work and personal life have been intersecting with increasing frequency, and the clear dividing line between them is no longer present. Here are some examples of a few things that have been happening: Hey, I know that guy!  Old friends contact me out of the blue because copies of my productivity articles were floating around their workplace.  They find my contact info and look me up. Friends and business.  Discussing business with friends who also do business online can be awkward because we both know I can potentially help them simply by linking to them.  I have to balance my desire to help a friend vs. the needs of my readers and the purpose of the site. Local events.  When it comes to promoting local events, I have an obvious advantage if I utiltize my blog, which can feel a bit like using a bazooka to kill a cockroach.  In November 2006, I gave an all-day workshop on blogging for the Las Vegas National Speakers Association, and I mentioned it on my blog with only a very short advance notice.  These local NSA workshops drew about 20 attendees at the time, whereas mine had 50 people show up, including several from out of state.  My NSA friends were very pleased, and the successful workshop raised a lot of money for the club.  This led to my being invited to speak at an upcoming NSA symposium in Palm Springs.  I’m not even qualified to join the national NSA yet, and I’m being invited to speak at one of their main events.  On the one hand, I’m grateful for these types of opportunities, but it feels a bit awkward using my blog to get there, as if I’m unfairly bypassing those who’d be even more honored to receive those same invitations. Struggling friends.  It can be tough seeing friends who are struggling financially while I’m enjoying so much abundance.  After working hard on my own thinking about money, it’s become very obvious how other people’s own financial beliefs hold them back, especially their fears.  I can spot the seeds of abundance within everyone, but not many are watering those seeds correctly.  On the one hand I really want to show people how to water those seeds, but I don’t want to push so hard that it damages our relationship.  So I generally keep my mouth shut unless someone specifically requests my help.  I’m not out to judge people or to push my ideas on them. Networking.  My blog is helping me build high-leverage relationships with people that would otherwise be difficult or impossible to get access to.  For example, I’ve been spending more time on the phone with multi-millionaire entrepreneurs who’ve built very successful businesses.  I probably connect with at least one such person every week now, usually by phone but occasionally in person.  For the most part, they approach me, usually because they heard about me from word of mouth.  I enjoy these interactions very much because we can both help each other, if only in the sharing of advice and ideas.  I’m particularly good at giving people ideas on how they can better leverage the Internet.  Invariably these have been some of the nicest people I’ve ever met, but they tend to be very busy and are extremely selective in how they use their time… something I can certainly understand. Facing the future.  When Erin and the kids and I are out and about in Vegas, it can feel strange if we’ve previously been spending a lot of time in cyberspace.  It takes us a while to transition out of our blogging duo mindset and back into family mode.  We can see where our momentum is headed and that our situation is constantly changing.  We sense that it’s only a matter of time before our online reputation overflows so much into the offline world that we start getting recognized in public.  Erin already had this happen once or twice due to her TV appearance on the Criss Angel show.  It feels like we’re sitting in the eye of a storm, knowing that the winds are only going to pick up. All these factors add up to an unusual situation, one that is difficult to fully fathom and predict.  Overall these are very positive developments, and I enjoy their many challenges.  One of those challenges is maintaining perspective, staying grounded and balanced even while confronting a rather unbalanced situation.  On the one hand, it’s important not to let cyberfame go to one’s head and become an ego-feeding monster.  But on the other hand, it’s equally foolish to deny the existence of one’s fame and the ability to leverage it intelligently, both for personal growth and for contributing to others. Staying focused Overall my greatest challenge as a blogger is staying focused.  So much input comes my way each day that it’s easy to get caught up in a whirlwind of activity.  There’s always something new that can be added to my plate, and in the moment of decision, everything may seem like a good idea.  But seemingly good ideas are seldom the best choices. I find it most helpful to stay focused by returning to the fundamentals of personal development.  Sometimes when I notice I’m getting off track, I’ll go back and re-read some of my old articles on topics like setting goals, making plans, taking action, tracking progress, and adjusting course as needed.  This helps me regain my perspective and get back on track.  I also do a lot of journaling to work through specific issues as they arise. Whenever I need to make tough decisions, I keep coming back to the purpose of my work, which is to help people grow.  That simple purpose helps me stay committed to my long-term strategy instead of drowning in short-term tactical thinking.  When I feel my life is becoming too complicated and confusion sets in, I review my to-do list, asking for each item, “Is this going to help people grow?”  Then I start deleting items that don’t respond with a resounding yes. Final thoughts Being an A-list blogger is a privilege, one I believe must be earned with every post.  Ultimately it’s a position of responsibility, not of status.  I encourage those of you who achieve such a position to take that responsibility seriously.  Use your influence to make a positive difference in people’s lives, but find a balanced and sustainable way to do it, so you enjoy the process without burning out or blowing up.  Enjoy the rewards that come your way, but don’t lose sight of the fact that those rewards are a product of your service.
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30 Days of Inspiration

Today is Day 5 of my 30-day trial of inspired living, as I explained in the previous post. If you missed that post, basically I’m testing what it’s like to live without thinking or planning ahead. I’m living in the moment and doing my best to act on inspiration whenever it comes to me, riding each wave for as long as it lasts. If I’m not feeling any strong inspiration, then in those moments I’ll take some downtime or catch up on routine tasks like email — and take the time to eat, shower, etc.

I’m not scheduling anything at all, unless the inspiration to schedule something hits me. I’m not using an alarm clock to wake up at any particular time, I’m not “planning” to exercise unless I’m inspired to do so, and I’m only eating meals if and when I’m inspired to eat.

I’m learning that hunger can be somewhat inspirational at times, but last night I skipped dinner entirely and went to bed hungry because I didn’t feel inspired to eat. I was too busy following other inspirations, so being hungry didn’t bother me much. By the end of the day, I was spent and collapsed into bed.

A Difficult Trial

What began in the spirit of fun and adventure is now becoming much more difficult. I’m realizing that this is shaping up to be the most challenging and intense 30-day trial I’ve ever done. How nice that this part of it shows up after I’ve already made a public commitment to it…

This trial isn’t about testing a new habit or altering my sleeping or eating patterns. It’s a 24/7 commitment. Part of me is surprised that I can even commit to this at all. I had to get my thinking to a whole different level just to say yes to this experiment.

Dealing with the unpredictability of what’s going to happen next is extremely unsettling. In order to make it through this, I have to let go of trying to control anything. I have to let go and trust.

I’m also seeing that in any given moment, I can be under the influence of multiple waves of inspiration at the same time. They don’t conveniently line up for linear processing. They arrive in complex layers sometimes. When there are multiple waves overlapping, I do my best to ride the strongest wave at the time.

Another pattern is that each wave has its own crests and troughs. Sometimes there’s a powerful impulse, but it’s too much to do all at once. After I catch and ride the initial wave, there’s a lull, and then another related wave shows up to move things further along.

Initially I figured that I couldn’t screw things up so badly with this trial that the damage would be irreparable. Now I’m having serious doubts about that. As I ponder what’s beginning to show up now, I can easily see a pathway where I could do some real “damage.” I could throw a lot of things out there that would make it impossible to ever return to my Day 1 equilibrium.

There are certain things that, once I put them out there, can’t be recalled. If I act on such impulses, my life will spin off in some new direction, and there will be no going back. An example was when I shared the story in the Meaning of Life: Intro article. There was no way to back away from that once it was posted. I don’t regret doing it, but I can never go back to what my life was like before I posted that.

At this point, I now expect that by Day 30, I’ll have probably done at least some things that will make it impossible to restore my life to essentially the same place it was in on Day 1. That’s pretty unsettling.

I now see that it’s going to take a lot of courage to continue, let alone complete, this trial. I know you probably don’t see evidence of that yet, but I imagine you’ll have a better grasp of what I mean by the end of the trial.

Subjective Reality

There’s another aspect to this trial that I haven’t mentioned yet. For me this trial is also a deeper exploration of the perspective of subjective reality. Subjective reality is the notion that consciousness is primary, that there’s only one consciousness, and that all of physical reality is essentially a dream world that arises within consciousness. I’ve shared articles about this concept years ago. If you care to learn more about it, see the Archives, and scan for the articles with “subjective reality” in the title.

At the last CGW, I spent much of the final two hours explaining how subjective reality works, along with some personal experiments that indicate it may in fact be a more accurate model of reality than the objective model (whereby the physical universe is primary and consciousness arises within it).

At one point, I asked the CGW attendees that if they had to pick one or the other, which model did they feel was probably the more accurate depiction of how reality actually works? Interestingly, the room was divided roughly 50-50, with half the people favoring the subjective model and half favoring the objective one.

That didn’t surprise me because I’ve been on the fence as to which model is likely to be more accurate. From a subjective standpoint, it makes perfect sense that the dream characters in my reality would reflect back to me a 50-50 split.

Well, after that CGW, I began thinking that I was ready to explore the subjective perspective in greater depth than ever before. I had largely stopped progressing down that path because quite honestly, it scared me. Things were beginning to get too strange too quickly. This perspective was bestowing me with more power than I felt ready for. For example, in less than a year (which was 2006-2007), I progressed from manifesting pennies to manifesting $50K. And to this day I can still create roughly $50K amounts with relative ease. I’ve also manifested lots of other good things in my life. All of my needs are well met, I enjoy an abundant life, and I’m genuinely happy with my existence. But this begs the question, “How deep does the rabbit hole really go?”

After a few years of stalling interspersed with some very gradual steps forward, I finally decided that as scary as it was, I needed to get moving in this direction once again. Within days some synchronicities began showing up. Some were personal, and others were more public and obvious. For example, right after I made this decision, the movie Inception showed up in my reality and began generating a lot of buzz. Several people began telling me to go see it, some claiming that it included elements of subjective reality. I almost went to see it last night, but I still haven’t seen it yet. Maybe today if the inspiration hits me. Before making this decision though, I’d never even heard of this movie.

Another thing that happened is that some TLC friends shared some subjective manifestation stories of their own with me, stuff that was beyond what I’d experimented with on my own. For example, Joe Vitale shared the story of Dr. Hew Len, a therapist who cured a hospital filled with mentally ill patients without ever seeing them. If you believe the story, this sort of healing is tough to explain objectively, but it makes perfect sense if reality is in fact a subjective dream world. If you want to learn more about this therapist, go read the article The World’s Most Unusual Therapist, or read Joe’s book Zero Limits. I’ve already started testing some of these ideas, and some curious results are beginning to show up. It’s becoming increasingly difficult for me to regard other human beings as separate and distinct from me now.

At present I’d say I’m now around 80-20 in the sense that I’m 80% certain that subjective reality is the more accurate model of how the universe actually works. Consequently, I’m beginning to loosen my grip on the objective side, and I’m beginning to do things that may seem risky from an objective standpoint, but subjectively they make perfect sense.

This trial is a good example. Objectively speaking, it’s a very risky thing to do. By acting impulsively for weeks on end without pausing to think things through, I could really screw up my life both personally and professionally. I could potentially do and say some things that have serious long-term consequences, not just for me, but for other people in my life.

However, from a subjective standpoint, this should actually be a much more sensible way to live. The notion of an “out there” is nothing but illusion, and it makes no sense to fear what may happen in a world that’s a projection anyway.

Needing to Know

I’m embarking on this trial because I really need to know. I can’t remain on the fence. I have to go down this pathway and see where it leads. It scares me to do so, but I’ll just take it one day at a time. If things get really screwed up along the way, I’m willing to accept those consequences. I’d be willing to sacrifice a lot in order to discover some new truths (or old ones I’ve forgotten).

I think that deep down, part of me already knows that reality is subjective and that the whole objective model is pure delusion. But I can’t overcome my doubts by staring at them and pondering them. I have to push through the fear and doubt and resistance and see what really lies on the other side. Will it be a glorious new level of existence, or will it lead to chaos?

I strongly suspect it’s the former, but the only way I can really do this experiment properly is by being willing to accept the possibility that I may experience the latter.

Inner Processing

I’m still doing a lot of inner processing. If I feel inspired to share the details at some point, I’ll do so, even if it’s really difficult in the moment.

Last night I went to bed at 1:30am, and I woke up at 4:30am. Some very emotional stuff began coming up again, and I did little else but cry and sob till 6:15am. I’m still not sure if I’ll share the details about this publicly. It would probably stir up some drama if I did, but for now I’m not feeling the inspiration to write about it, at least not yet.

I am getting a glimpse of things to come. I may not be able to control it, but I can try to make sense of it along the way.

One thing I’m seeing is that I’m going to be pretty busy. Lots of energy is getting stirred up, and it’s leading to a lot of activity. I can’t separate the personal side from the professional side, so I don’t know in advance which part of my life I’ll be working on most. It feels like I’m working on both at the same time.

I made breakfast almost two hours ago, before I started writing this post, but it’s been sitting there uneaten this whole time. I’m pretty hungry, but I’ve had to follow this wave of inspiration to write because it was the stronger wave. Hopefully I can go eat once I post this. I’m also very thirsty. There’s a full glass of water next to me, but I’ve barely sipped it. I stuck with the writing wave until it reached its shoreline, even as my hunger and thirst increased along the way.